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writes: My best friend wears coloured contacts that make her dark brown eyes, hazel. She said she wears them because they make her feel sexy, mysterious and more attractive. Which i agree, when she wears them even i'm intimidated by how hott she looks! She has dark hair and olive skin, so when she wears them they stand out against her dark features and look really good. But she is gorgeous even with her natural eye colour!! And i told her she doesn't need them, but she said it's not case of needing, it's more her wanting cause she likes how she feels when she wear them, she has a lot more confidence. But i want her not to wear them because she is projecting a false image of herself to everyone. She wears them every time we go out in the evenings and gets so many guys and sometimes girls saying how beautiful she is. So i'm worried she''ll become dependent and that she has low self esteem and actually feels without them, that she isn't beautiful enough?Do you think this is the case or that there is any problem with her wearing them? Even though, that's not really her!! Does it not sound like she has self-esteem issues? How can i stop her from wearing them, or convince her she's gorgeous without them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): Don't allow the attention your pal gets bend you backwards. Not all people, including myself, get a rise from plastic beauty. I prefer the natural beauty of a woman; her eyes, breast, stomach and so forth; stretch marks, loose tummy, sagging breast and so on. It has history in all of it and it exhuberates her confidence, inner strength and high opinion of her self worth. She's happy with who she is and doesn't trivial herself with how other people define her beauty. This is the type of woman who comes out ahead. I'm assumming you're a natural? Best way to go. I'm with you. Conveyor belt eyes, no way. Natural eyes or nothing.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 I see no problem with it. I would wear colored contacts if I wore two (I only wear in one eye)
it's like her dying her hair... it makes her feel better.
I don't see a big problem with this at all.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Makeup, push up bra's, body gloves, high heels, hair extensions, curlers, straighteners... (need I go on?) These things all give a false image of who somebody is, doesn't necessarily mean that anyone who uses them has low self esteem or isn't beautiful already.
She gets more positive attention when she wears them, so why wouldn't she wear them? It becomes a problem when these things have to be used when just waking up every morning or just bumming around with friends.
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