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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I know my coworker is not into me even though she acts like she is. We work retail, temporary jobs for both of us, but she is 5 years older than me. She acts like she's into me, all the signs are there, but when we hang outside of work alone nothing happens, its just like we're friends. I'm certain that nothing will come of it, her flirting is just her friendship style.I want to get over her but its hard. Last week I was watching a movie and realized theres so many more girls outside of her, so many fish in the sea. I got all happy, stopped thinking about her, at work I even became colder to her, I stopped flirting with her and became just another coworker. But, she doesn't stop, she still flirts. And today, all it took was a simple hug because she did something bad and wanted to apologize, and bang, I realized I still like her and I'm back at zero. She also calls me out on it when I ignore her or am not friendly. How can I get over her? Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): Hey man, I'm in a similar situation with one of my good friends. I think with all good friends this kind of thing happens. Where you develop feelings and the other has no idea and continues to unknowingly lead you on. I can't stop thinking about her when I'm with her. Then when she's not around I see that there are so many other options. Then i see her again and i think to myself.. it can only be her. What i suggest is that you tell her - even though you know that maybe nothing will come of it but at least you'll never look back and regret not saying anything. Even if she doesnt feel the same she might slowly start talking to you in a different way and it'll help you to get over her.
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