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writes:Hi there, my friends think I'm too fussy when it comes to girls and they keep telling me that it is the reason as to why I've been single for the last 4 years.This is partly true as I have to admit I am fussy but the main reason that I choose to stay single is that I suffer with 'PE' and I'd rather not bother trying to date a girl at all than have to go through the embarrassment that will ultimately follow should the relationship get that far.I like a girl at work, who has been single for the last 5 months. She is good looking, down to earth and basically just a very nice person but as I am already apprehensive about asking a girl out who I work with anyway the 'PE' problem always plays on my mind and I know in the end I won't bother asking her out on a date.Your advice would be greatly appreciated because as much as I enjoy time on my own and my own space I wouldn't really want to remain on my own in life for a reason as daft as this.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 One thing to keep in mind is that if you bring your lover to orgasm first, she'll be so happy and relaxed, she probably won't notice your 'PE'. Then, after you've caught your breath, and you're a bit desensitized, you'll be able to last longer if you can start up again. Basically, take the focus off yourself for the first part of your sexual encounter, and you may find yourself relaxing enough yourself!
So to make her happy: kiss kiss kiss foreplay foreplay foreplay her climax intercourse then repeat as necessary, but it probably will only need kiss foreplay intercourse. (Foreplay being lots of manual and oral stimulation.)
If you just can't get this worry off your mind, you should definitely see your doctor as Army Medic says. It has been 5 years, after all, things will have changed for you physically as you've matured.
Good luck! And try to remember that sex should be fun, not something to dread and endure.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (21 September 2009):
You know what, sex isn't everything. I mean whats wrong with a cuddle and a kiss? Be honest and they will understand. I have plenty of friends who can't last very long and they find ways round this. Circumcision seems the best one seriously. Don't put your live on hold because of somthing like that, loads of people have these issues. If your really worried about sex you could always go out with a religious girl who wears a purity ring.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (21 September 2009):
 Sorry are we talking about premature ejaculation or Pulmonary Embolism here? Either way speak to a doctor, PE (embolism) is fatal so I wouldn't worry too much about dating. Premature ejaculation however is treatable and as you haven't dated in 5 years the chances are you have grown out of it. Try dating and if the worst happens seek professional help, as it's often stress related/psychological.
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