A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi all, I suspect my friend is bulimic. She usually heads to the toilet after meals and spends around 20-30 minutes there. Though I've never followed her in before, she usually emerges with puffy eyes and runny nose. Once, another friend also saw remnants of thrown up food in the toilet. She used to be slightly chubby, but ever since she went overseas for studies, she has lost a lot of weight, to the extent whereby she looks frail. But she still thinks she's fat, and somehow, she always manages to link whatever topic we talk about (clothes, guys, food etc) to how "fat" she is or how she needs to lose more weight when obviously she doesn't. But it's hard to broach this topic with her, especially when she is a defensive person. Although it's just a suspicion, most of the symptoms she exhibits are bulimic and I'm worried for her health. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Talk to her parents is the best thing you can do, talking to her wont work I'm afraid. She needs help from a doctor so her parents are the best people to help her get to a doctor.
Alternatively, do you go to college or school together? Is there a counsellor or teacher that you can speak to? This requires an older, more responsible person to deal with it so they can help her to see how serious this is.
In the mean time, just be supportive and be a good friend. Try not to make a big deal out of meal times, try and avoid talking about weight, food etc. I know it is normal girly chat to talk about celebrities who are skinny, how you feel fat today etc, but just be careful when you are around your friend as it might make her feel worse. Try and be positive instead, but ironically DONT compliment her - the more she gets compliments for being skinny the more she will think her eating disorder is working, and it will make her continue.
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