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writes:Hi guys, okay well me and my fella have been goin out not for about 8/9 week casually, dates, few kisses, he stays over at mine and i stay at his, but no sexual contact whats so ever, we've been taking things slow, which i think is real nice, he seems perfect. But i can see at the minute that sex is clearly on the cards, on both parts. Its just 'gonna happen' i can tell, but im worried, not about sex, i want it, but the fact that im 19, had over 10 sexual partners and never had an orgasm!And hes nearly 30 and is obviously rather experienced, yeah guys my problem, ive never had an orgasm! Ive masturbated, had my fair share of sex, ive enjoyed myself and come close, but its just never happened. I feel like i let people down, because if sex doesnt do the trick, i somehow or another get the bloke to orgasm 90% of the time. Im worried he'll move on because he wont enjoy himself, basically im looking for better tactics to reach orgasm, either on my own to practice or so i can sort of show him what does it.. Im sure someone will understand what i mean, id appreciate any answers, thanks for reading x
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reader, person12345  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 Well you can't expect someone else to get you to orgasm if you can't even do it yourself, so you should make a point of masturbating a lot lot more until you can do it. If it's really not working, try buying a bullet vibrator to help you along. Bullets are good because a) your partner won't feel threatened like he would with something huge and insertable, and b) you can incorporate it into your sex life without a lot of trouble.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (2 April 2011):
 If you premise sex with the fact that you haven't had an orgasm (probably NOT mentioning the whole 10 partner thing in your factoid), I think a lot of guys will consider that a challenge they're willing to undertake, especially a male with so much experience, what an ego boost that would be. that said, I really think you should work on figuring out what works for you and what makes your own body tick to get you over that hump (hah.) before bringing someone else into the mix.
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