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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 2 years now, we are both on our way to university this year although i'm really worried about it. I do really love this girl, but whenever were both out say at a pub or a nightclub we always fight, the main reason for that is because she is extremely jealous, I mean if I even turn my head or glance away i'm being accused of looking at some girls legs (which i'm not). It's not just that shes a jealous person, i'm pretty much the same and i really dont know how were meant to go to university where were going to meet a lot of friends of the opposite sex and head out with them all the time, do you think this will have a toll on our relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): 99.9% you will split up....you may aswell do it now son
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (14 January 2009):
I'm afraid to say, university is a big obstacle in a lot of relationships and as you both have these insecurities already, it will be even harder. I'm not going to lie to you. COMMUNICATION is the key in this situation. Lack of communication will cause a big distance between you.
Don't let a big gap be created between you because you don't talk for a week or something.
-I think before you both go to uni, you need to sit down with her and tell her that even though you'll be at uni, you want to be with her and her alone and that no other girl will fill that place. Basically, reassure her. I would also discuss with her how she feels about the situation.
- I also think that it would be a good idea to set dates of when you will next see each other. This gives you both something to look forward to rather than wondering when you'll next meet.
I would firmly suggest that if things do take a turn down hill for the both of you and you both feel that you can't trust each other that you break up sooner rather than later. My two best friends were together and they had this problem and they dragged it out and caused a lot more pain.
Sometimes, it's best all round to break up with someone and let them meet someone new who can be there for them and the same applies to you.
I hope that everything works out for you both, whichever path you take.
xx
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