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writes:Well hello everyone! My name is amber and im gonna be twenty years old...and Im gonna be a Mommy. I met the baby's father about six months ago..we found out that i was pregnant just a few weeks into our relationship.. At the begining of our relationship we both had so much fun, got hotel rooms, drank alot, talked and laughed...And things have been not the same. I have changed and sometimes i think that we really dont know too much about eachother. It gets really awkward. Sometimes we'll both be sitting next to eachother and we dont know what to say..Its sad. Sometimes i think that maybe this was just a fling and our relationship was kinda based on drinking. Hes a really good guy, the type that every girl wants. He has a very good job too. But the passion that we both had once isnt there anymore and we both no that. Downfall he leaves town a few weeks even months at a time.. And the worst thing of all is i think im still in love with my ex of two years! And i have talked with him. And he still loves me to and knows everything im going through. Me and my ex were great together. I even dream about him. I just dont know what to do. I think about him all the time! But now im with the babys father...a guy i barely know. And now i have a baby growing inside me...and im still in love with my ex. What do i do????? HELP PLEASE
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reader, tux +, writes (9 March 2009):
 I have a few questions I guess.. Do you expect to be sitting around 24/7 and having a conversation? If that were the case, a lot of relationships will fail because eventually you'd run out of things to say. You may need to start to stop being afraid of silence. This is a problem a lot of people have. They always feel that a good relationship is when you always have something to say, which is not the case because sometimes you just need to relax in silence.
Also always to keep in mind that when relationships start, everything normally is fun and exciting because it's fresh and new. It'll be like that with mostly anyone and everyone. Of course, you probably did the worst thing by getting pregnant at that time before you really knew if it was a good relationship or not.
But I think that you should focus on your baby for now and see how everything transpire from there. Maybe you should try to get to know the father more and see where that leads rather than thinking it to be a lost cause.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 You should never have unprotected sex with someone you have just met. You need to speak to you ex and tell him how you feel. Obviously you are going to have to tell him about the mistake you make. He may love you enough to accept it as his own but do not lie. The truth will come out.
Why did you split up in the first place?
These days women have choices and you do not have to keep the baby. Its up to you. We can not tell you what to do. If you are not in love with the father you should not stick with him. however, sometimes, love takes a while to grow. May be witht he baby, it will draw you closer and you may grow to love him. I experienced this with my own first child thinking I was in love with someone else. the baby helped me get my mind of him.
Spend sometime thinking. Only you know you situation the best. I have tried to look at it in different ways.
Good Luck and take care from now on of yourself.
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