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writes:Well I been dating this guy for a little over a year now. And he is a great guy. Hes the best thing thats happend to me. I love being with him and I catch myself smiling for no reason sometimes:)But he has been in trouble wit the cops before, he recently got arrested last week. he might be faxing up to 4 years? Should I wait or TRY to move on? Its so hard I love him alot! Help me please. Thank u.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 One more thought on this. The guy who goes off to prison will come back a much different person. He'll have experienced life behind bars and I don't believe that is a pleasant thing. I understand it can harden some into lifetime criminals.
Do you have any feedback for the people who took the time to answer this?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Wait. Just wait long enough to pack your stuff and run out of the door.
4 years in prison at your age shows that he is making terrible choices in life, and while he makes you smile now, its not going to be quite so hunky-dory during the 4 years at prison. And what about life after that? How does he plan to pick up the pieces and reconstruct his life?
Ultimately you will do whatever you want to, and if you choose to go ahead with this, then you alone have to bear the consequences. At 17, you have your entire life in front of you and the best of guys to choose from. Don't jeopardize it all
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): "I'm with a great guy, except he may be facing 4 years in prison. Should I wait?"If he's any here near your age I can tell you he's not going to wait, whether he wants to or not.And if he's such a "great guy" why is he facing four years in prison?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 I agree with the others... move on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Try to move on hon.... 4 years at 17 is nearly forever...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): If you dont mind having the odd month or two with him between his many sentences, this relationship is for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): He doesn't sound very great to me getting in trouble with the police, and I'm guessing it isn't something minor either if he's facing 4 years.
You're only 17, you have your whole life to fall in love and find someone really NICE to be with, someone who's decent, has a job and really loves you, not someone who's in prison. You deserve better than that I'm sure.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 January 2012):
At 17, I'd suggest you try to move on. If he's making choices that lead him to being in prison for 4 years, he's likely to have a very drama-filled and unhealthy life. Probably not the best choice for a good long-term relationship. You can always look back on him and remember the good times but you'll be thankful in the future that you haven't thrown away your life for a guy who didn't care enough about you to stay out of 'trouble.' I believe ex-cons have difficult lives because of the consequences of their choices.
You deserve a guy who puts your best interests first.
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