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writes: My girlfriend and I have been going out for a few years now. I am more than willing to, and do, go down on her pretty often. The problem is that she refuses to give me head. I've tried talking to her about it, but she hasn't ever really given me an answer. How can I get her to be as willing as I am? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2005): Ditch her. Get another who reciprocates and is more horny.
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reader, gemma +, writes (20 June 2005):
I think - coming from a womans point of view, this is very selfish. You give her pleasure and she takes it. Then when its time to obviously give some back she doesnt??????? I personally believe in equalism. If she wont talk about the reasons why she wont go down on you, I think you should make her talk to you. Get her in the position where she cant run away or make excuses and tell her how much she's upseting you. Say that you feel she could at least provide a decent explanation for her rather selfish behaviour!!!
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reader, pops +, writes (20 June 2005):
Always be clean before engaging in oral sex. You may also help matters by trimming the hair on your penis, and around it, so there isn't a big bush for her to put her nose in if she give you head. You can also wear a condom to assure her that she will not have to taste you, or your cum. I don't understand women like this. Had one breifly as a lover, and dropped her. She refused to have an orgasm with me, no matter how much oral I did, or how good regular sex was. I believe she felt that if she had an orgasm, she was somehow obligated to give me a blow job, and swallow my load. No matter what I said, I could not get her to change her mind. I left. Found someone else, who not only wasn't crazy, but who liked all kinds of sexual behavior, giving an getting.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (20 June 2005):
 Not all woman like giving head! Some find it a turn on others find it a turn off. Maybe suggest thigns like covering it in choclate or cream or something like that and get her to lick it off... tell her what would turn you on... when your together in the throws of foreplay mention that you would like for her to suck you, see if when shes that turned on she obliges.. maybe bath together... the fresher you are the better, and it can be very erotic to come out of the bath or shower dripping wet, she may like the thought of it then... maybe just gradually try the body paints and the like... let her take it a step at a time, maybe its the taste of the seamen she doesnt like, in which case assure her that you will let her know when its about to happen and she can move away... see if you can come to a compromise, tell her that you love your sex life, but would really love to try something different and see what she says.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
Perhaps she had a negative experience with "giving head" in the past...or had a religious upbringing that conditioned her to believe she's BAD if she performs oral.Since you have tried talking to her & she refuses to give you an answer, it's obvious she's embarassed to talk about it...implying she is not comfortable with her sexuality.She needs to feel comfortable, safe and uninhibited.I would advise buying her a specialized book that shares a positive, sensitive approach to the subject of oral sex.Or perhaps, gently suggest a Sex Therapist for her.If you love this lady, be patient & tender with her.Do NOT pressure her or try to make her feel guilty for not giving you head after you perform oral sex on her.I repeat, she needs to feel at ease, safe & uninhibited.This will take time...it won't happen overnight.In the meantime, start with SMALL pleasures...if she strokes your penis, ACKNOWLEDGE her actions verbally & let her HEAR your pleasure, let her see your smile & satisfaction on your face and in your eyes.You don't need to HOWL in ecstacy or she will shy away.Just let her know, any time she touches your pubic area, that it makes you feel good & in time, she will feel good about it too and perhaps be brave enough to go further.Men are usually "more willing" than women when it comes to being oral, but you'll be pleasantly surprised when your patience & tenderness pays off.If you try EVERYTHING & she still does not enjoy giving you head...you have 2 choices...love her or leave her !
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