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writes:An ex is calling to let me know that he has arrived safely to his out of town worksite. He says he wanted to let someone know that he was ok and how to get in touch with him in case they needed to. Strang thing is he had already called his best friend,his roommate then me. We broke up very recently and he manages to call me every time he is out of town. Always giving me his number. He said on his last call that he said he would call me again later in the week or I could call him . I don't quiet know what to make of it. So I am trying to wait it out and see if he will make the call or wait on me. What do you think gives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk folks I wanted to let you all know that he called me today. His work week ended this morn at 6 am. He got some sleep and was calling to talk for a few. He let me know that he wasn't going to be back home tonight but tomorrow. His phone was able to make the connection out so he called but we only talked about 10 min as it started roaming. He didn't call the best friend or he roommate. Just said tell them I will be back home tomorrow. hmmmmmmmm. SMILING NOW!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Dapon: I don't mind the calls because I will always be his friend. He in fact does know that I still love him. The calls of course I handle delicately. I try not to show how much I miss him but I am kind as always no matter what. I am kind to everyone as best I can be always. I talk a bit and try to allow him to talk. Sometimes he just sits in silence listening to me chatter away. Sometimes I g ive it a break to get a reaction from him then he act like he is struggling to say something just to even keep the conversation going. I think he wants to talk but considering the breakup which was his idea he is at loss for what to say. Fri night he was approaced by my ex fiance who informed him that he is still in love with me adding" but man she is still in love with you". His reply was the usual stubborn and prideful sounding comment (if you only knew him) Well she needs to get over me and forget me. I will always be her friend and I will help her in any way I can. Then he goes out of town two days later and I am one of three people he calls. The comment that he would call later in the week or I could call him seems strange after his comment before. Just a thought here, he made a wry sounding, very scarcatic remark about me going back into an eating place that early morn after the club closed saying. "hey you had better go get your man!" Jealousy maybe?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Daniel. I have the feeling he cares but knows he has made a mistake breaking up with me. He had told me during our relationship that I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am a good woman and every man who ever walked away tried to come back at some point. I don't drink, smoke , do drugs or sleep around. I am a giver and I love deeply with all my heart. I still love him very much and I hope that he will realize that any problems we ever had could be worked out if only he would try. I am also a very forgiving and loving person.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 It seems like he still has some feelings for you. He wants to talk to you, and he wants you to be informed should something happen to him.
If you broke up and you don't want him anymore, don't wait for his call. Let him call (just in case) and do nothing unless he has a real problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Suzanna. you see we just split up for good about a month ago. He and I have remained friends. The story is long but what it boils down to is that he had some issues and we dealth with things as best we could. We often see one another as we sing in the same place. He often watches me in a crowd. He won't watch me dance with someone else. It was only recently that he would even dance with someone else. He always trys to get my attention so he can talk to me when I ignore him , because I am trying not to let on how much I still love him and that the breakup is about to do me in. I always show up looking the best I can . He notices with big smiles and comments that I sure do look pretty. In a crowd when he is talking to someone else he constantly talks as his eyes flash back and forth to me while he is talking with someone else. The worksites he goes to is out of town because he is in constuction. He always lets his best friend know his number, He usally has me to inform the roommate. So I am thinking why does he always want me to know it too. This time as the last he called me several times and even said for me to call him. I think it a bit odd for someone who haa decided they can't be with you romantically to be acing like you are not only friends but like the best of friends and still in a way together. Any ideas or questions feel free to ask. It might help someone to get better insight into what might really be happening.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 hi
there could be a couple of reasons i think,one could be to see how you react to his calls, another reason could be to see if a male voice answers instead of you,which in turn means he is checking up on you or maybe he is just lonely on the site and has no one to talk to so he phones you,what ever the reason is if he is your ex and you are honestly over the relationship then maybe you should change your phone number or ask him not to call because you have moved on, the choice is yours.
hope this will help
good luck
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reader, ladysuzanna  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 seems to me he should have called the person we love first and now he giving you the number i find out what happen in between where he was and what he did something may be wrong unless he can explain i check out his worksite at night if i was you maybe it's true maybe theres nothing and maybe there is good luck
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