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writes:Me and my friend are arranging a 'double date' with myself, her, her boyfriend and the guy I like. The problem is I feel so uncomfortable around her boyfriend and I don't know why, I feel awkward and on edge. also, she's ridiculously pretty and it will just lower my confidence..any help please?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 June 2013):
Hi there. Perhaps you are uncomfortable around your friend's boyfriend, because you may be attracted to him, and this is why you feel awkward.
And maybe you don't realize this at the moment, and so you don't understand why you feel this way either.
Nevertheless, it is a possibility.
And perhaps, your friend's boyfriend is attracted to you also.
And this is what might be complicating things.
And you would know if this is true, by how you feel if there is the 3 of you in the room at your friend's house, and she leaves the room to go to the toilet, and it's just you and her boyfriend there alone.
And you would know if he is attracted to you, by how he looks at you and the conversations that happen when your friend isn't there.
So maybe this is why you feel this uncomfortable feeling you have whenever your friend's boyfriend is present.
It is definitely a possibility, to say the very least.
So from now on, just make a careful observation of how he looks at you when your friend is not there, or she is looking in another direction and can't see him.
And it may provide some clues as to why you feel the way you do.
And if it should happen, that like I was saying, you are attracted to him and him to you, well then you will have to figure out how you are going to handle the situation, without anyone getting hurt - namely your friend.
Let me know how you go.
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