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writes: Hi, was just wondering what you all think of marrying your first real love?I began dating this man when I was 18, and I honestly didn't see it as a longterm thing. I wasn't planning on spending my life with him.We've been together 5 years now and we're finally engaged--I'm absolutely over the moon about it. Love him very much, and am excited to spend forever with him. But some people have me doubting things lately. As we got together when I was 18, I feel like I didn't experience many men or dating. I don't mind it now, but I'm worried that down the line, I'll regret not trying other guys out first.I really don't want to take a break or date anybody else. I want to marry this man very much. But yes I am very worried that in 20 years I'll look back and say "Hm...I should've experimented a bit more before getting involved with one guy."Has anyone here any words of wisdom? Did any of you marry first loves? How did it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): i read somthing rather intresting and inspiring it said that "stop fantasizing about greener grass somewhere else. the truth is the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence; the grass is greener wherever you water it,love works if you work at it".
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reader, eddie  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 What you're feeling is normal. You said your feelings were influenced by others though. Who and why?
There is no answer to this question. It's a gamble. If you've got a fine man, you might lose him. When you realize you've made a mistke, he might be taken. Then you'll have to move on. Based on your you own criteria, at this point, you'll spend the rest of your life wondering if the "one that got away" was your REAL true love. Even after marrying another man. You see, nobody knows. There is nor doubt, you could meet other men, have fun, date, sex, travel etc. That is reality. This is the same thing that happens to married couples after many years. They ask themselves, if the grassis greener on the other side.......... If you're married to a jerk, perhaps it is, if you're with a good guy and you're just bored, it could be a mistake to leave.
I got engaged after 3 months. I was 23 and had dated many. I wasn't looking for a wife either. I was shocked how it happened. My wife was 22 and had dated a few guys. One was a real relationship, the others wer just teenage type things or casual dates. WE've been married 21 years now. It's been great, ups and downs, but great.
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