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writes:I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and I started seeing a therapist yesterday. And she's absolutely beautiful. I would've found it a little easier to talk to some middle aged woman or even an old person, but she's the same age as me, and incredibly attractive. I'm there to work on my issues, not to spend an hour and a half daydreaming about running away to New Zealand to escape Donald Trump and living happily ever after with a beautiful video game geek psychologist. With that being said, would it be a dick move to stop going to the sessions and ask her out? After all, the therapy's never going to work anyway because I'll just be distracted :D Reply to this Question
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (18 November 2016):
 Good for you on recognising this Therapist as a distraction to getting your mental health back on track. I agree you'll need to ask for a more experienced/mature Therapist.
Attractive or not I wouldn't feel totally confident with a youngster 26-29 delving into my scrambled head. Although they’re attentive in listening, taking notes some are too keen on only giving Psychology text book solutions?
As for running away from TRUMPLAND to New Zealand, well one can only dream… I’m just waiting to see how Michael Moore documents this Presidency.
Just remember, escaping from anything that troubles you is only geography as your head travels with you.
Take Care – CAA
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (14 November 2016):
Hi I don't mean to be disrespectful, but it isn't professional to think of dating your therapist at all especially since you seek her help on your issues you have. One she could lose her job and her license she work hard to get when she studied to be a therapist in collage, date her. Two it would be inappropriate to date a woman you seek help from. Three she might have a bf or married also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2016): No i doubt she would be into you after she has heard all your problems.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 November 2016):
 Switch out the therapist.
Don;t ask her out. Unless you like to be turned down. Pretty sure she isn't doing that job to find dudes to date.....
I mean common sense should tell you that it's a pipedream.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 November 2016):
 Sorry but she will never go out with you even if you become an ex-patient. You will still be a patient ethically so she will never cross that line. If you think she won't be able to help you with your issues then find a new therapist. It is very common to "fall in love" with one's therapist, it is called transference.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (12 November 2016):
 I think your first priority needs to be your mental health. Perhaps ask for a different therapist, one who you can connect with and can help you?
I wonder why you think you would be able to talk to her if she was not your therapist when you can't talk to her now?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (12 November 2016):
 She can't date a client, even if you've only been there for one session and quit.
Seek a new therapist and let the crush fade.
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