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writes:Hya im only 16 and really need help.Im not supposed to know but ive just found out my brothers ex girlfriend is pregnant. Now she wants to abort it, but she will be 12 - 13 weeks pregnant. Now i know im only 16 but i think its a wrong decision and she will regret it. But i dont want to change her mind because its a life changing decision. But it starts to grown muscles, finger nails and loads more at this stage. It really upsets me because that's my niece or nephew inside her. But its not my decision to make. But im really upset. Please please help me x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): It is a very hard situation to deal with. I myself and extreamly against abortions. Some women think its a form of birth control, and don't weigh all the other options first. If a women isn't ready to have a child, she should not have sex. To punish a gift from god for her own selfish pleasures is the ultimate sin. Children are ment to be loved and cherrished.. Not ripped from the womb and murdered! Maybe I was raised old fashion.. But I believe that if she decides to abort.. The captian should go down with the ship. She should just kill herself too. After all.. She is in the situation because of her own actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Dear Poster
I can understand your pain and agony. Yes, it can be very difficult and can be emotionally very disturbing if you think about the little fetus but unfortunately this is there decision. There is not much you can do to change things or to make it different, but you can learn from there mistakes and be more responsible about pregnancies. You can warn others against the pain and hurt of unwanted pregnancies etc.This might not turn out the way you would want or prefer things to be, but than you have to also realize that it is there lives and they are entitled to there freedom of choice. They have to do what is best for them. Try not to judge or criticize them. Give them lots of support and a very quiet but deep understanding and extra love and care. This is most probably also a very difficult time and decision for them.
I do think that no matter how difficult it might be, you have to respect there privacy and there choice. However, try to give them lots of support and extra TLC in ways to make life easier and more bearable for them now.
Learn from this and try and avoid getting into the same situation. Don't judge them!
Hugs and lots of smiles.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I understand why you're upset. Unfortunately, this is not fo r you to decide. This things happen and all you can do is carry on. For example, suppose the husband next door cheats on his wife, who is a lovely person. If you talk to her and suggest she can do better, tell her where she can find help, et cetera, and she stays there, what are you supposed to do?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 How do you know for sure it's your brother's baby? Are you absolutely sure of your facts?
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