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writes: Hi, ive been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, at the beginning we had a few problems but the last two years has been the best ever. the problem is, im not happy and i dont know why. My BF spoils me rotten and makes me laugh soo much and i really love him. Were going on holiday to paris next month and everything. I go to uni and enjoy that and ive just finished all of my work for this year, love my family and friends loads, im going away with my friends to malia this year and ive just started a new weekend job which is going fine so i dont understand why i feel so down. I should be extatic because my life seems to be perfect to everyone else but im always upset. Im not sure whether this has anything to do with it but in February i wrote off my car as well as 2 others and it did affect my confidence everything seems ok now though.Does anyone have any idea why im being like this?Or what could be causing my upsetness?
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reader, Deema  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Its tough when this happens. You sound like everything is so good for you. Can I ask you one thing? Have you had a lot of crises in your life - so that when life is good you don't know how to deal with it, so it kind of feels almost empty until the next crisis comes along? I know that happened to me. I had one thing after another - big things too - to deal with, then when they all stopped and life was peaceful, it was like I was looking round for a crisis, cus thats what I was used to. If I never had one myself I was looking for someone elses to sort out. Then I saw the problem for myself and continuously told myself I was fine, it was ok to relax, but it took time to feel better. If thats not the case for you, then like theothers said, go chat with your doctor or counsellor, or whoever you would turn to with this stuff. It may be a chemical imbalance that needs a little tweek. Good luck. Its good you are recognising this and addressing it anyway. Lots of love xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): I lunged from one depression to another, in fact i have battled depression for a lot of my life. Go and have a word with your doctor, get it down on record and tell them all that is going on in your life. You may just want some light medication or a spot of counselling, but either way, take it - cos i know from first experience, it does help. I have battled the last lot off myself, but i know how you feel. Mail if you want.
take care
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reader, lotsofgiggles123  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 maybe its just a phase ya know and i am sure you feel so down when you to paris :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): well i'm not going to pretend that i'm a girl wiz, i'm not. two months ago me and my girlfriend moved from my home to live closer to her family and her new job which is a great job. Well she seems to be deprested all the time even though her live is now falling in line and thats because she has worked so hard for so long to get where she is at, now that she has the success she has nothing to work for now and she is lost. she can't be happy with what she has now even though it's what she wanted. The key is in the quest, there'in lies the joy and mystery and we deporately need our mystery. Find somthing unobtainable and go for it,humans need challange that bring joy. I hope this helps it not then sorry and i hope it works out for wor
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (23 May 2008):
 heyyi know what your saying and its totally normal. Everyone has their up and downs. Think about something thats not going too hot with you right now and work on making it positive. Your life sounds pretty good to me so there is no need to be unhappy. But like I said its normal and you'll be feeling good again, but exactly how long have you been unhappy? this is what puzzles me. Have you been unhappy since you wrote off your car?....think about this one. Thing will eventually pass, all hardtimes usually lead to greener grass, a brighter rainbow..blah blah blah lol. What i'm saying is to be positive and look at all the good you have in your life and this should keep your mood up. With all the stuff you have going on there is no room for negativity ya know. Keep your head up and plant a smile on your face girl=]
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reader, sexi  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Hi
Dont be too tough on yourself. We all feel down at some timw or the other. Just hang in there it nay just be a phase that would soon pass. If you feel that it aint the case then you should go speak to someone and get a professional to help you deal with this. Just hang in there!
Good Luck,Mail me if you wanna talk
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