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writes:Hi.I'm feeling a little down lately.I've recently graduated from university with a degree in I.T. I want to make it perfectly clear that although i don't socialise often with friends, visit clubs and pubs or drink, i'm not a nerd!I'm struggling with a few issues such as unemployment, debt and depression caused by these and the relationship factor.I broke up with my ex roughly 7 months ago because of a few issues (she had another guy stay over at hers, and also rented a hotel room out with him whilst i was away)I have been cheated on by 2 different girls and feel that it must be something that i'm doing wrong which turns them away.Recently, a female friend of mine and i have got quite close. I like her a lot but i am unsure of what she wants from me.Its like one minute we're mates, laughing and joking, the next she tells me that she wishes i was the father to her 3 month old daughter.All i want is a relationship, to feel loved and wanted. I'd love to be the man to bring up her child but everytime i say something i get given the cold shoulder which makes me feel stupid for saying anything.I hope someone can helpThanks In advance!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Well, at least you can move on now. Sorry for the bad advice, which in this case is good, as it resulted in your knowing where you stood with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, your advice has helped me a lot.
I told her how i felt, laying all my cards on the table but then a week or so ago she went out and met a new guy.
I suppose i was just the flavour of the week eh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): Hard to say really how it is anyone can help here. I think you saying "All I want is a relationship, to feel loved and wanted" could be a big part of the problem. I myself dont see needing to be in a relationship as being constructive in starting one, or being in one.Things seem to work better when people are their own person. If you can be happy in your own skin,then things around you must be happier,and life happens as it should.This is just my opinion,I have been known to be wrong about a few things in the past..lol
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 December 2009):
I'm terribly, dramatically bad at taking hints, but I think this time this woman is being pretty clear. She wants something serious with you. As in "loving you and wanting you". Or, she needs a father for her child. You choose.
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