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writes:I'm just writing to ask for a bit of help on what i should do.The thing is, i have been in a relation ship for 9 months now, but the thing is, it is now starting to make me feel depresed being in this relation ship and i dont no what to do, all my friends say i deserve better than him, and should end it but i dont know.Well, the begining of the relation ship he would always say somthing like, 1. I know i am with you but i would bone ***** anyday!2. If i wasnt with you i would so go after her, she is so pretty, i mean she is really pretty!!3. she would fit in my family so much better than you, unfortantly im with you though. ( Said he was joking though )4.your the worst mistake of my life. ( but he said he was joking after that too.Now hes always doing stuff like,1.telling me who i can nd cant text, yet he can text anyone.2.always goes through my phone, wen i leave it or just snatches it off me and looks at my messages.3. i have no privacy, he nicks all my little notes i write and reads them and takes them home.4. i have susicions he has gone through my diarry.5. hes allowed to say omg if i wasnt with holly i wud do her!! i cant even mention another lads name.6. My friend said that he winked and gave a sexy look to her.7. i was kissing him but didnt want to go any further so i went to sit up and he kept pushing me down then he pushed my head down so hard, that i whacked it on something hard and hurt my head. And he said you never wanna kiss me anymore!8. He kept asking too look at naked pictuers of a girl in my year. who is an EX best mate AND I REALLY DONT LIKE!!And lots lots more stuff like that.I some times go to waltham to hang around with a few mates and he trys to stop me going because they are lad mates even though i go with other lass mates, and he says its them or me! And then he goes there when he thinks im there and searches for me! and goes in shops shows them a photo and says you seen this girl. he so weird its like what ? he stalks me!I dont know what to do i just dont think i wanna be with him anymore, its like i think i have stopped loving him, but then when i think about it i think. i do love him! but wether i love him or not, i shoudlnt stay in a relation ship that is makeing me feel depressed right ?? or with some one who treats me like this?all my friedns think i can do much better and that he doesnt treat me right? What do you think help me please ??
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 What do you mean, you´re not sure if this is how it´s supposed to be?
Are you kidding?!?
He treats you like shit... you deserve someone who will respect you.
You need to learn to stand up for yourself... Say, I´m unique... there´s only one of me... and I deserve to be treated right. I refuse to let anyone abuse me, and I will not tolerate this shit from anyone.
Look in the mirror and say that. :) It´s true!
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (28 December 2009):
ANY girl deserves betten than THIS creep!
It´ll hurt you more in the long term if you stay with this loser. He sucks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): your boyfriend seems to be an idiot now thats not a lie, but forget what other people say. it seems like you are focusing on the bad parts of your relationship witch is always bad, think about the good parts of the relationship.All men are the same they are all over persesive he maid a few mistakes who hasnt. To me it seems that he is scared of loosing you.you should do what you want, NOT what your freinds want. You must love him otherwise you wouldnt be asking for advise be with him but only if you love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): if you love him you need to tell him how you feel, i am in a relationship were my boyfriend is very pertective but i seem to think of it as he loves me and is only pertecting me (its a man thing) my friends hated my boyfriend too they tryed getting me with other boys,i said NO!, i told my friends that i wanted to be with him because i love him.and they understand me, you have to ask yourself the queston DOES HE LOVE YOU!!! if you think he loves you then maby you should egnore what people think and put things behind you and stay with him!!! my boyfriend said things like that too when we first got together but 1 year down the line i know that he loves me and would never hurt me like he did before, all i can say is good look your a young lady and should hold on too whaat you have good look and all the best!!!!!!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Oh, and, dear, take care of yourself. If you don't stand your ground, no one will do it for you.
All the best,
Me.
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reader, taylor8790 +, writes (27 December 2009):
 I would get out of this relationship as quickly as possible. You may love him but he isnt treating you right at all.
He should respect you, care for you, value you and he should have eyes only for you.
Quite frankly i think he's treating you like crap, youre friends are right, you deserve so much better.
I was in a relationship like this and i was miserable. I just wish i had gotten out sooner.
Please be careful and think of yourself. You arent happy but you deserve to be.
Take care
xxxx
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 December 2009):
I think you deserve a hell of a lot better than this guy. He doesn't respect you at all. Dump him now. It might hurt now, but a few months from now you won't understand how you wanted to have a relationship with this guy.
The good thing about this is that he's given you a checklist of things to watch for in the future. Now you can separate the wheat from the chaff. If another guy behaves like him, you know he's bad.
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