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writes:Ahh please help. Im 16 and my friend is turning 17 in a few months, hes really attractive and says he thinks i am too. We talk alot and i really like him, but lately he was messing around online and talked dirty to me and then asked me too, just to make him happy i did and he said it really turned him on. But now everytime i talk to him online he always wants me to talk dirty to him. It sometimes makes me feel uncomfortable as its not like me- plus hes only a friend. I keep avoiding him online to stop but i dont want it to compromise our friendship. How do i get him to stop with out it being awkward and messing our relationship up?! Reply to this Question
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reader, puzzledpixie +, writes (26 April 2009):
puzzledpixie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice. I did tell him that it was just a one off and i it was weird seing as were just friends and he understood. He said it was a shame but he was fine with it. So all is good and im glad. Thanks for getting me to do it! x
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reader, purplecloud03  +, writes (25 April 2009):
 why not ask him why he wants to hear it off you so much? ask him if he does it with other girls online, or if its only you. you dont like him from what ive read you are just friends. i had a friend who did the same n he was just full of hormones(same age at the time) i pretty much did what ive told u to do n then when he said he talked to other girls the same i just said well could u talk to them n do it with them because i want to keep us as just friends n i think this dirty talking will ruin it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Sounds like he's using you as a cybersex buddy. If that's not your thing, you don't do it. Simple.
You tell him it makes you uncomfortable... and if he persists or doesn't stop, then he's not too good of a friend, is he?
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (24 April 2009):
Just tell him. It doesnt sound like a great solution but its the only one that doesnt involve avoiding him
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): If it makes you uncomfortable its not rite dont do it.
This boy sounds like an arse hole stay away from him.
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reader, FoxIRL  +, writes (24 April 2009):
If something makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. Listen well: this doesn't put anyone at all in the wrong. There is no right and wrong in personal situations. Whatever you decide for yourself, own it. The other person can gather your decision up and feel however they like about it.
That's the way that life works.
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