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writes: How do I get over the fact that the last time I spoke to my ex I texted him that I hated him, how I will never forgive him, that he won't ever get married, and that he will get what he deserves. I broke up with him a little over a month ago because he was emotionally abusive, but the last time we talked was last week. The deal was he wouldn't leave me alone after we broke up, kept trying to add me as a friend on myspace, kept calling and texting me, and it was getting annoying! At the beginning I said I wished him well and that I prayed that he could change, but then it just got so irritating and I couldn't help but remember all the hurtful things he did to. I'm trying to forgive him, but do I tell him this? I seriously think that if I do he will still think we have a chance, which we don't! He thinks it's no big deal remaining friends but I wouldn't dare be friends with someone like that! How do I get over what I said to him? I don't want him to hate me.
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 hi anon. first dont feel guilty over what you said to him, it was said in the heat of the moment and as far as your concerned it was all true anyway. do not appologise for saying how you felt. If you feel the need to forgive him in order to move on, do it priveratly. he doesnt need to know.
change your myspace account, change your phone number and ignore him.
you will never get over him, im sorry, but you can turn it into a learning experiance. we all learn from our mistakes, take some time to evaluate your past relationship with him and take what lessons you can out of it.
if you are truely tearing yourself up over him, then councilling is always an option.
good luck hun, and wash that man right out of your hair xxxx
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