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writes:My ex is back. He is 26 and I'm 16.I love him. During our break-up I met one guy online. He is really good. He is 23. After my break-up I was depressed he helped me to get over him. But He is addicted to sex. And He love some other girl,He never told her about his feelings. My ex-boyfriend disappeared for 4 months. We met online. He is back now. He says he love me. When I asked him Where he was for 4 months. He said that he was busy. I'm in love with my online friend who is a player. I talked to him about my feelings. He said that we will stop talking because He don't want me to get hurt, he said we are still friends.He want me to concentrate on my studies. He said we will meet after 1 year. When I finish my exams. He is really a good guy. I know you will say it's wrong to love a player but he is good at heart. He never forced me for anything. And we are good friends. When I told him that I started falling for him. He stepped back,for me. Because he know about my ex-boyfriend. My ex-boyfriend called me. He said he wants to meet me. He will visit me in December 2012. And my friend said he will meet me in march 2012. I don't know if I'm still in a relationship with my boyfriend. Because he call me whenever he like. and he is never there for me when I need him. During our relationship he blocked me on facebook. I found it when I made new account. And also when girls ask him if he is in a relationship. He say that he is single.Please help me. I can't understand this two guys. My friend and my ex. I'm torn between them. I don't know who I love.Everything is complicated. Can you love two people at the same time? Is it love? I'm confused. I don't know who to choose. Should I go back to my ex-boyfriend?
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reader, GG96  +, writes (1 June 2011):
Its your desicion, but,
-he's hurt you before
-he COULD be lying
-in my opinion its better off that you aren't in a relationship right now. You sound like you need a break. but its only my opinion
-if you decide to break it off, just simply send him a FB message. Don't chat, as that didn't work out (i totally understand i wouldn't have been able to do it either). You might not be able to do it nicely, but you can do it respectfully.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 Hi
yes hun, you ARE doing the right thing , you will hurt for a while it's understandable, because you have feelings for him, but feelings better being spent on someone who will love you for who you are. Get out with freinds, keep yourself busy, and you will be suprised on just how quick you will get over this, and start a better road for yourself xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks dear Mandy.... Today I sent him message on facebook to talk to me when he come online. We talked today... I asked him is he still busy... He said yes.... He said I love you before saying anything.... And I don't know why.... I love him too but I couldn't say anything..... I just kept quiet... I am still confused.... I don't know how to talk about it to him... How to start? He will try calling me on my old number... Its changed now....it is hurting me so much... Am I doing right? If I break-up with him will I regret it later? He says that he loves me too.... Should I ignore him?? :"(
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reader, GG96 +, writes (1 June 2011):
Yes, just send him a message on facebook. It'll be fine, he's a big boy. And try to go out with guys your own age, ok? A lot of guys use girls, and you don't want to get hurt again. Oh, and i wouldn't date for awhile, so you can just work though your feelings.Good luck!!
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (31 May 2011):
HI
yes just be straight with him. just say it's over!! be strong...you being tall is not a dis advantage in life at all... it's an ADVANTAGE but you cant see it. when you start to realise that you will be in a better place than you are. Do NOT settle for anything less!!! so your taller than avergae SO WHAT if a man cant except you for who you are, then what is he worth?? nothing thats what . you are a unique women, who deserves a man who understands that. PLEASE do not take anything other than what you deserve, and that is someone who will love you for who you are. truely wonderfu;l xxx Take a look at yourself in the mirror tonight, every inch of yourself. and say " I AM WORTH MORE THAN THIS. I AM A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMEN WHO DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE treated like a freak because i am not one. i am a lovely young women who will find her way, and when i do i will love and apreciate life to the maximum " Love yourself first before you try to love others, because unless you learn love yourself, no-one will love you either ...........
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for replying....
I left my friend who was player. I told him about my feelings and he said we will not talk if its making me sad. I know that he is a player but still I like him but we broke-up. And my boyfriend I really have feelings for him. I know about the age gap but I really love him. I asked him where he was for 4 months. He said that he was in India. (his hometown). And I can't understand him. He says that I should understand him. And what about me? Which boy-friend will take break in a relationship more than 6 months? I want to leave him but I don't know how to do it. I don't know if I can find someone because I have physical problem. I have marfan syndrome and I am tall. I have family problems. Its hard for me to trust again, to fall in love again. I trusted him a lot. And he broke it.. I changed my number. Should I send him message on facebook that I don't want to keep any relation?
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reader, GG96 +, writes (26 May 2011):
You've probably gotten this alot, but 26 and 16? I don't know what state you are in but i'm pretty sure that's too wide a gap in age. Listen, it seems both of these guys are bad news. And never trust someone you met online.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): They're both bad news. Stay away
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (25 May 2011):
Hi
I would suggest you date neither of them. They are both players, your just falling for their charm, because you dont like to be alone.You would rather have someone than no one...For starters no man of 26 is interested in a 16yr old other than just for sex, and s knows how vunerable she is, so takes advantage. he disapeared for 4 months and says I was busy?? RIGHT I would tell him were to stick it, and it wouldn't be pleasant I can tell you. And the other guy you knkow is aplayer already, wether his nice about it or not, his still a PLAYER. get over them both, and find someone your own age hun. you will have more fun, not made to grow up to fast. xx
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