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writes: Dear Cupid,ok i love my boyfriend to death! yes we fight sometimes but we always make up.. now i have this other guy who's really into me and im a little bit interested in him but i just don't know what to do! i couldn't live it down if i cheated! and if i lost my boyfriend it would kill me.. but i kinda like this other guy help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): A wise person once told me a piece of advice that may help. Never leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will eventually leave you for the one they love. I guess it really boils down to what you and your b/f are fighting about. Is it small things, because there has never and will never be any relationship that does not have its share of arguements. If every relationship were perfect there would not be sites like this one. If you truely love your b/f ,and you sound like you do, then let the other man go. He may be into you now, but what happens in a week or so when he becomes interested in someone else? If you dont feel you can hold back your feelings for the other guy, then be upfront with your current boyfriend on your feelings. Belive me I know that nothing hurts worse than being cheated on, or living with the everyday regret of cheating on someone else.
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reader, mitta  +, writes (13 November 2006):
You've already answered this question for yourself in your mind. You've said you love your boyfriend to death and you only like this other guy. And you've also said cheating isnt an option, so what's the problem? Even those of us in great, loving relationships get little crushes sometimes. I think that you're just enjoying the attention from this other guy and you're experiencing a little 'grass is greener' syndrome. You're probably just going through all the excitment of imaging what all the different romantic situations would be like with a new man, but in reality I think it would be a mistake to do more than imagine. You've said yourself that you really love your boyfriend. Is this other guy really worth it?
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (13 November 2006):
 I think what you're feeling is flattery that the other guy likes you, and the natural female's reaction of, "oh... I should like him in return, since he's not just a perverted creep!" or possibly lust. If you love your boyfriend, and truly feel you'd die without him, the answer is obvious hun... tell the other guy, "I'm flattered, but I already have a boyfriend."
I know at times when you fight, you probably start wondering about the other guy, right? Well don't. If you and your boyfriend can sort through your problems, that is a good sign that you two will work well together.
Good luck!
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reader, Jenz +, writes (13 November 2006):
I've dealt with a similar situation with one of my friends. Everytime she got drunk she wanted to dump her boyfriend who she loves a lot and I know she would be upset to lose. Your situation is similiar, I think that when you love someone as much as it sounds like you do, things can get predictable and you begin to feel the need for change. You want to know other people are still interested in you. It is perfectly natural to like other people and feel attracted to them, just don't act on your feelings and there shouldn't be a problem. It is like that saying you can look but you can't touch.
If you love your boyfriend like it sounds you do, try something new with him, maybe try going out to new places etc to bring back the vibe into the relationship and who knows that might stop the arguing.
Alot of problems in relationships is that they become almost routine and the love is there but things begin to become dull and when that happens your head begins to play around.
You clearly love your boyfriend and don't want to lose him, it is nice to have other peoples attention but don't act on it, you would lose your bf and then may regret it.
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