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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 8 months total with a couple of break ups here and there. When we first met, she had a boyfriend, but he wasn't the best person. he was a player, and barely made any effort to see her and it was a big "he treats you like dirt, you stick to him like mud" situation. so we were sort of romantically attached while they were together which i highly regret but i was so attached and attracted to her i couldnt help myself, but eventually she broke things off because it was wrong for her to still be friends with me if she had such strong feelings and i respected that because i felt it was mature of her to do. later we began to go out after their relationship fell apart shortly after because he cheated on her (ironic?). their were some arguments here and there but the relationship was filled with love and lasted for about 3 months until she met this guy and was instantly attached to him and started talking to him all of the time. then even after i told her i wasnt comfortable with her hanging out with the dude repeatedly because i could tell he had feelings for her and i found out she didnt let him know she had a boyfriend she did it anyways and he took her out to eat and to the mall and they were together all day. then she broke up with me that day, with plans to "get her feelings straight and had intentions of trying again soon once she knows what she wants". then come to find out, about a week later she's having sex with the guy. i found out about it from her friend and confronted her to break things off completely. then she comes with the whole "i want you in my life forever deal, and all that jazz" so i let her back but of course i was insecure because of our previous problems. things are going pretty smoothly she says she's in love and always wants to be together and wants kids and then she meets another guy and they exchange numbers and are talking all of the time and she starts acting strange again. her thoughts now start to become different talking about how we may not be together always and acting like she's scared of the future. i constantly try to talk to her because i am feeling insecure because of what happened before but she just pushes it aside and says im being too sensitive and gets aggravated as soon as i tell her how i feel and starts ignoring me. then eventually i broke up with her again cuz i was tired of the shit. she has plenty of male friends that she talks to so im not tripping about that but yet again, i could tell that this guy was feeling her and i was right. as soon as we split he tells he's going to write a book about her when he goes to the marines and he's gonna come back for her and he already misses her and all this other shit and she still invited him over to hang out the next day b4 he went off to the marines. we try it one more time because i felt that i overreacted so we went for another round. then she's saying that she loves me but isnt in love with me anymore. i try to ask her why her feelings changed and she just replies "i dont know, and im tired of talking about this and yadayada and all you ever talk about is the relationship" so i decide to break it off completely because im tired of the inconsistency and confusion. now she decides to be real and admits to being in love and she never wants me to leave her and she's so sorry so we continue being together. then she calls one of her friends "cute" and whenever im not cool with somethin than im being too sensitive. idk how to deal with this mess.....what should i do?
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reader, kristianna +, writes (9 March 2010):
You really dont need her trust me you dont she sounds slutty in my opinion but thatsz my opinion you can find better or cutt her out of your life for a month and she'll b running back...anyway i hope all is well
PEACE&LOVE -- CHRISTIANNA
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 Break up with her! She cheated on you many times and will continue to do so. I`m sorry but she is not going to change for you.
Good Luck!
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