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writes:I am 11, and 2 of my friends have started ther periods, the say that they asked their mum's about gettin boob's, problems 'down below' and all that.. but i feel i cant! I want to ask her about why I fancie like 5 boys in my class, and about periods and what words meen, i really want to i really do, but.. I just can't! Please don't answer and say: 'Just ask her' because i really, just, CANT!! HELP MEEEE! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): i have the same problem it's really cringey i even find it embarrasing to ask her to buy me new pads and i never tell her when i'm on. you jst have to live with it whilst your living at home anyway xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): what you need to do is realy think about what you would say if you would ever talk to her then you just pretend your talking to yur self and say mom my friends got there periods and i just wantto talk to you about it and as soon as you look like your boobs are starting to grow your mom will be able to tell and she will come to you and have a talk with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Awwh hunnie, i remember been 11 :D wish i was back in them days lol, i could never talk to my mum about anything! i had my period for nearly 2 years before i even told her id started them. it wasnt until i lost my virginity and she found out (ooops :P lol) that i actually felt i could tell her anything, i know shes my mum and i know she understands everything, she was once a 16 year old girl like me! i know you feel embarrassed, every girl has been there, and your best friend will always be there for you, but remember, your mum was in your shoes once over, she knows what your going through, there is nothing you can ask her that she wont of asked her mum when she was your age! relaxx, dont worryy :D good luckk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Thank you everybody, i know this sounds lame, but i CAN talk to my bff Lillie, she's the besstt, all of you have helped me, and i WILL say to he tomorrow night, "Mum, when you were my age, did you have a boy friend or was there a boy you reeeaaalllyy like?" I think she s afraid of me growing up! :( xx
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reader, thats_not_my_name +, writes (5 August 2008):
 hey! growing up is sooo confusing and you'll probably have loads of questions you want to ask. if you don't feel comfortable asking your mum, then maybe there is someone else you can ask, who's older than you e.g. a cousin or older sister or aunt? but remember your mum's mostly been through all the things you are experiencing and should be happy to talk to you. and don't forget there's always the people on this site! good luck, hope i helped :S and message me if you ever want to talk xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Hi
Mabe Mum will come to you and start talking about these things. I would think she probably does not think you are quite ready, but if you hint that you are, it will make it easy for her to start talking. If you say somthing like (do you remember when you were my age, did you like boys? ) this might be a good starting point. OR it may do nothing. But do not worry about growing up into a young lady it will all unfold naturally without rushing.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 hi hunny, don't worry!! first of all you need to understand that she has been through all this too so she knows how awkward the mother/daughter talk. she is the best person you can talk to about this because she understands and loves you. its only normal for girls your age to start getting curious about this!! if you really really dont wanna approach her about this then be all means email me and we can have a chat about whatever you need to know. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Dont put so much pressure on youself it is ok not to feel comfortable talking to your mother. There must be someone you feel you could talk to an aunt.grandmother friends mother. You need to find someone you are comfortable approaching. The day may or may not come when that comfort level is with your mother.
There is also the "aunts" here.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 I was in the same situation. Even though I trusted my mom, I couldn't bring myself to ask her this type of questions because they embarrased me. My mom was the one who seeked me for this, but instead of talking to me (I guess she felt the same way), she gave me a book to read about the changes I would have.
So if you can't bring yourself to talk to your mom, then you could go buy a book that talks about it. I can't remember the name of the book I read, but it was very helpful. I've heard "Girls in Power" is a good book that talks about these kind of things, so you could check it out. You could also go to your local library and look for the books that talk about these type of things.
I recommend reading a book, but you could also search on te internet too. The reason why I don't think this is as good as having the book is because it will not be so full of details. Search in your favorite engine "menstrual talk" or "menstruation" and you will have lots of websites that will address these type of things.
Or in the end, you could just ask your mom. Get the courage to ask these things. DON'T BE EMBARRSED! She will probably help you WAY more than a book.
Good luck and have an awesome teenagehood!
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