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writes:Hi cupid,i think im gay but im too scared to admit it to anyone. I go on gay chat but i woulnd't ever tell anyone? I'm only 14 and like girls and boys but boys more what should I do?Also I had sex with a boy!And now afraid he might tell someone? Reply to this Question
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reader, Merisier  +, writes (30 May 2008):
Listen you will have plenty time to tell them but in the meantime enjoye ur teenage time. As for your friend, if he is not out himself, he is not gona tell that he has sex with you. So don't be afraid.
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reader, B-NaneR  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 I say just give it some time, your just confused about your sexuality. if you turn out to be gay, than dont feel bad about it, if you remain attracted to both sexes than thats great also just be comfortable with yourself, and what ever makes you. just do what you feel comfortable with.
take care
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reader, rebbecarevenge +, writes (18 May 2008):
 relax most teenagers are bi its normal, after i split with my bf i slept with one of my best friends who is a girl.Its completley normal to be confussed, and you dont have to admitt to anything till your 100% sure of your sexualityBest wishes Becca xoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Im 13 and bisexual and i think u r to0. Ppl say its a puberty thing. Its not. Not if u can have sex with another dude and not puke while yur doing it. Dont be ashamed. Ppl will get over it. You have to come out of the closet eventually. Gay ppl are sum of ko0lest ppl out there. Even straight ppl know that. BE PROUD OF IT
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (18 May 2008):
 relax- he is just as likely to fear people knowing as you so i doubt he would grass himself to people.
you are young and i would not recommend telling people in school as at your age people are immature/narrow minded/cannot cope with difference, and have a strong need to fit in.
this lessens dramatically in a couple of years so by 16 or 17 things should have broadened and people become more understanding/sure of themselves/care less about what others do and think of them.
its a much better age to come out. and its not as bad as you imagine so see how you go and stop beating yourself up unnessesarily and lok after YOURSELF
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reader, HRJackson90 +, writes (18 May 2008):
 I'd say give it time, as i have earlier mentioned my ex found that he was actually straight after 2 and a half years with me, time can change a lot of things and feelings especially at your age. When you are 100% sure you prefer guys, don't be ashamed and hold your head up high!I hope this helps you.Hayden
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reader, lexilou +, writes (18 May 2008):
 14 is very young to be having sex whatever your sexuality so just be careful as its not only illegal but also there is a risk of diseases. Aside from that though you may actually find your close family have already guessed but if not its hard to pinpoint an exact time to tell them apart from when you are ready. However I would wait awhile as you say you are not sure if you are gay and like girls too. It is perfectly normal for people to be attracted to the opposite sex especially when very young and many of us have same sex experience in our teens but end up hetrosexual or sometimes bisexual. You may have a sexual experience with a girl in the future and love it or you may hate it or you may never want to be intimate with a girl. Either way when you are ready to discuss your sexuality with your family if you need to then dont worry about it as it is a lot more acceptable in todays society and true friends will respect you for who you are not who you like. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I think you should give it a bit of time yet, there's no need to label yourself yet - you still have time to think it over, especially since you're still going through puberty. Just take things as they come. If you enjoy being with boys more than with girls that's your choice (well.. maybe not your choice as such).
I think that a lot of people are more accepting of homosexuality these days but there's obviously the odd few that don't approve - but hey that's their problem :-P
If you feel like you want to come out - and you'll know when you do, because it will feel right. Just tell someone you can trust, like your best friend or your parents (depending in your relationship with them of course).
I think if this boy who you had sex with is someone who you are friends with then he shouldn't tell anyone, and it's possible he's in the same situation as you, he's probably not going to announce to the world that he had sex with a boy - and if anyone was to skit or mock, he's get it too so there would be no point in that.
I hope I've helped a little - keep us updated =)
xx Hope xx
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reader, honeyross +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Society is better than it used to be, but many people still don't accept homosexuality because they don't understand that it's normal. Many young people aren't really homophobic but they could go along with homophobic bullying just because their friends are doing it.
Don't feel you have to tell anyone unless you really want to. Sometimes it's better to keep things to yourself. There's no reason to feel guilty about being gay so there's no reason to tell everyone just for the sake of admitting it.
The boy you had sex with might not tell anyone because he could be afraid that others would react negatively to him. Depending on what he's like, it's possible that he would try to out you without giving the full story because he might be feeling guilty about what he did.
If he does say anything about you, you could just deny it. Denying it is not betraying yourself. Being forced to come out when you're not ready would be more of a betrayal. Most people don't reveal all the details of their private lives, so why should you have to? Good luck!
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