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writes:I ended up getting involved with a close friend of 3 years (he's in my close circle of friends) 2 months ago. His father recently passed away and now it seems like he's spiraling out of control. He's always out partying and drinking something he never did before. The worst is I want 2 get out of this relationship because he never makes time for us he's always out with his female friends but never invites me. Every time I want to spend time with him he's always too busy, we never text or call each other and let's just say the physical aspect of our life is dead. What also makes it worse is everyone thinks he's gay!!! I want to get out cause I'm tired of feeling unappreciated and frustrated. Anyway advice would be great right now.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 Tell him you wish him all the best and that you hope his troubles don't stay with him but you can't be apart of his life anymore. Then just walk away. The hard part is that I don't think you can save a friendship out of this one, atleast until he gets over this. I can imagine it was a very rough time for him but he has to realize that what he is doing is only hurting him more and you shouldn't be the one to suffer with him.
Tell him nicely that it is over then walk away and he will deal with it however you he wants to. I know you care but this is something he has to do on his own.
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reader, MissTellAll  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 He's obviously taking his grief and aggravation out on you, which is not right in any way. Definitely get out because it is making you unhappy. Tell him everything you just told us. Aside from everyone thinking he's gay maybe, that might hit him a little too deep whether or not he actually is gay.
It sounds to me like the relationship is dead in the water. I don't say that to be mean though, I say that because no one deserves to be in that kind of relationship.
You can tell him you think his behavior is reckless, unlike him, whatever you want and say that you want him to stop but ultimately it's up to him. Just something you have to remember. Hope this helps, Good luck.
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