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writes:hello everyone am 15 years old and am talking to this guy who is 17 years old. he says that am the only virgin he knows. he always wants to talk about ''sex''. he always wants to know what i think or what i do since am still a virgin. he is very open with me he practically tells me everything and wants me to be comfortable with him. but the questions he asks me are too personal. why does he always ask me if am curious about sex? why does he always ask me about my body parts? he says that he wouldn't want to take away a girls virginity because he is scared. but i think he does what should i do? i need some advice please.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (31 January 2007):
He just wants to take your virginity. You are not the only virgin he knows, hes just saying that so you will feel like your not normal and give it up to him. Trust me when i say this, hes only after one thing. Hes trying to manipulate you. DO NOT loose your virginity to him. If you want to talk about this in more depth please please message me. You never forget your first time, and if you regret it...it will always stay with you. Wait untill you are old enough. You should know that most girls and guys lie about there virginity. But when you loose it, you can never have it back. And will wish you waited. Be one of them girls who DONT make that mistake. You need to wait for a guy you fully, 100% want to loose it to. You will know. But this guy is not him. Dont loose your virginity to him, he isnt scared...hes just saying anything he think will make you sleep with him. Just stay away from him, and dont be alone with him as he most likely cant be trusted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2007): Be careful with this guy, he definitely wants to sleep with you. If you feel unconfortable with him stay away from him. He only sees you as another notch on the bed post. The best thing to do is keep away and stop talking to him - if he talks of sex change the subject. If he invites you somewhere do not go, and never be in a situation where there is only you two. Be very careful with this guy - the best thing to do would be to stay away from him altogether! Do not get into a situation that you later regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): He does want to have sex with you. I have been in a not that eve postion when i was 14 & it was the same thing 2. he asked me a lot of questions about bodyparts and things and he wanted sex. I didn't have sex with him though, but I understand what ur going through. You should tell him ur not comfortable talking about that stuff to him and you think he's being to personal and try to swicth the conversation
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reader, ***la belle vida*** +, writes (26 January 2007):
 This guy obviously wants to sleep with you, he is been manipulative in the fact hes saying your the only virgin he knows, because he most likely feels this will make you feel pressure to 'fit in' and want to sleep with him aswell as saying hes 'to scared' thats a lie to throw you off the scent of what hes up to. and all the personal questions! bascially everything about this guy rings out foul. If hes making you feel uncomfortable stay away from him and certainly at least don't entertain anymore of his very probing questions. Also the fact you are 15 and hes 17 2 years difference might not seem much but at those ages its a hell of a lot maturity wise (both sexually and intellectually. stay away from him.
take care xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): lads r the same with me im nearly 15 and a virgin and its all lads want to know about u will know wen u have found the ryt guy cuz he wnt ask u stuff like that becuz it wnt matter to him what ur body luks like or if ur a virgin or not cuz he will just want u and like u for just bein u!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007):
Why are you allowing this guy to talk to you inappropriately? I think you should be careful. Of course he wants to have sex with you, if he didn't he wouldn't be sexual towards you. I agree with rhythmandblues, nice guys certainly don't behave how he is behaving. Would you talk to a guy like he is talking to you? It shows complete lack of respect. Be careful and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): Well, hun, this guy is like many 17 year old boys, he has sex and only sex on the brain when he is with you. Tell him you plan to remain a virgin and you don't want to talk about your body parts or having sex. When he asks if you are curious about sex, he is fishing to see if you want to take advantage of his "services". He does not sound like he cares about too much else, and I would stay clear of him, he is too old for you to be around anyway....nice guys don't ask you all this stuff about your body, they ask about you, the person, the girl that they want to get to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): If you have any doubt in your mind, what so ever, that he only wants to be with you because your a virgin and he wants to get it your pants then you should probably go with your gut feeling. You shouldn't allow him to ask you personal questions like that if it makes you uncomfortable. All boys have a one track mind... even though he says he dosn't want to take your virginity, he probably does. That's just the way guys are...
I don't know what to tell you, it's not my call to say weither you should stay with him and let this continue to pressure you until you give and lose your virginity to someone when your not ready, or dump him and move on... that's your call. But what i can say is if it makes you uncomfortable, you should say something.
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