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writes:k..i been w my bf for years..we live together..our sex life has gone down a bit since were both working full time, don't have quite the same schedules and also because the passion and excitement of a new relationship is wearing off a bit. So here i find myself masturbating sometimes and realized..hey..THIS is what an orgasm is! Obviously Ive never had an orgasm from regular intercourse. So after a bit of experimenting with myself I came to see that it was the clitoral stimulation that was doing it for me. So the last few times my boyfriend and I were intimate (without telling him my problem)I got him to stimulate me while we were having sex.. K.. that didn't work! So i tried doing it myself during sex..K..that didn't work either! Maybe my fingers cant move as fast as my vibrator to stimulate? ha ha Anyways what I'm trying to figure out is if I'm gonna have to use my vibrator during sex? Am i going to have to use it EVERYTIME? So if thats the case thats another problem I have..how do i introduce this to the bedroom? I don't want my boyfriend to feel not good enough! Its not his fault! Plus he doesn't know i use one! If you have any advice or have any other suggestions to help reach orgasm naturally I thank you!
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reader, metalgal  +, writes (26 January 2007):
i am the same way! me and my fiancee worked through by going a buying vibrator together. it can be done very easily.. for example you are walking in town together and you pass a sex shop. suggest going in for a giggle at all the strange things. when you see a vibrator that you like the look of suggest that the two of you buy it and try it out. your boyfriend is probably very interested in what a vibrator could do. if you buy a plain one it can be used on him too. my fiancee loves it when i put my vibrator just behind his balls when i go down on him. break him in gently to the idea and pretty soon you will have your own little collection. my personal favourite is a rubber cock ring with a vibrating bullet. if you put it on him and have sex on top it hits exactly where you need it plus you get the benefit of penetration!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 January 2007):
 When I broke up with my first boyfriend I bought a vibrator and after a while I couldn't come manually either. When my vibe was out of batteries it made for a very grumpy girl indeed! However in time you can teach yourself to come with your fingers again. It just takes patience and practise.
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