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writes:I find it funny how nomatter where I look, I can't find anything on a boyfriend being abused. I am that boyfriend and I am abused. I'm hit occasionally, insulted very often and nagged to death about every single pimple, stray strand of hair, and my clothing. I've done a lot for her. I lost 50 pounds in two months, I changed a lot of my wardrobe, I even picked up the tab when she messed up some very expensive clothing. I do everything for her. It's not the physical stuff that hurts, it's the heartless way she acts. (I'm a pretty submissive guy, I'm happy with her in charge.) She says things she knows hurt me deeply, and she gets annoyed, and even mad when I cry. I love her more than anything else in the world, and she's basically all I have in it. I don't know what to do. Is it my fault? I just don't know... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Thanks a lot, I was really depressed when I wrote this, and I got up some courage, but I couldn't leave her, I kind of blew up. Said a lot of bad things, and I got through to her. She called me "Her knight" for going through that when anyone else would have left and she's been amazing. I think all she needed was a shock to her system to realize that she was lucky to have me. I love her very much, she shows me that she loves me too.
Thank you very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): Hey brother I feel for you. You need to get out of there as soon as possible and get help if you need to.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 July 2010):
I'm going to give you exactly the same advice I'd give a woman in this situation. Leave. This isn't your fault in the slightest. You seem like a nice guy who's found a pretty horrific woman. The reason you don't find much about boyfriends being abused is because about 1 in 4 women are abused, compared to about 1 in 10 men. Plus men are less likely to talk about it. But, you've done the same thing that many abused people do. You've made her your world, and you think you can't live without her in it. Well you can, and should. I think of about nearly 6 billion other women who are far better than this one. You need to end it with her, focus on your own life so you have more in it, and find a better woman.
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