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writes:How often does a guy call if he's really interested in getting back together? My ex told me he wants to try again - that he thinks he's matured and things could be different. I told him I needed to take things slow and have some time to think about it. He was the love of my life, but I always felt like he wasn't quite sure about me, and that was hard, being head over heels for someone who I wasn't sure loved me the same way. He says he just didn't know what he wanted, because he was young and he just needed to grow up and figure things out, but now he has.I'm still scared. Terrified of going back into something with a guy who just doesn't love me enough.At the same time, the feelings I have for this guy are unparalleled - even my married friends say it's something really special that not everyone is lucky enough to find.My thought is - if he's really all that serious, how often should he be calling, texting or emailing? (we're living in different cities this year, until September). If he calls a few times a week but texts or emails most other days, just to chat, is that ok?
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reader, LittleTwoLegs  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Go for it, girl! I hope that you address your issues, honest and open before getting into anything, but if he was the love of your life than this is definitely something worth fighting for, especially if it is something he has come to YOU about! Please let me know how it goes for you, whenever it does.
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reader, citris +, writes (6 April 2008):
 I don't believe there is any set rule about this.
When it comes to love and in your situation I would say whatever feels right. If you think he is calling and keeping in touch with you to your satisfaction then that's fantastic. If not, maybe you need to communicate your needs to him. It's hard to live apart from someone you love, daily life can often get in the way of keeping in close contact with them. However if he is making an effort to keep the lines of communication open with you and sharing his thoughts and feelings then I would say that you're on a good path right now.
The best advice I can give at this point would be to follow your heart and go with your gut instinct. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. Be true to yourself, honest with him and hope for the same in return.
What makes you feel that he doesn't love you as much as you love him? Is there anything that can releive that problem for you?
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