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writes: I am so messed up in the head. I just don't know the difference between what's right and wrong or what's the truth or a lie. I don't even know if I can trust my good mates. I am always so suspicious around everyone. I just can't help it cause I am afraid of being hurt by everyone. Please someone help me. How do I get over this depression? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): I feel the same way sister. It has been so easy for me to shut people out because I know if I do they can't hurt me. I believe it has something to do with contol and vulnerability. I am tired of being alone though. Aren't you? I push people away to feel safe and maybe you do too. I recently started acknowleging those feelings of wanting to run because I knew I would not hurt if i pushed away first. I wonder how many people I have pushed away? I would need 5 hands to count. Not everyone thinks like us. You are your toughest critic. How happy are you not trying? I was miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): first of all, putting yourself down like that, wont get yourself happier. it only makes it worse. change that attitude.
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your problems lies within yourself. you are not able to turst others because you are afraid of getting hurt. WEll, just know this fact, you are going to get hurt. No atter what you do in life, there are times where you get hurt. Dont take it too hard on yourself.
Love yourself. Life freely. Think positively.
and MEDITATE.
go to google.com and search meditation and learn about it as much as possible.
its the best.
just watch out.
dont take this too far, because it is in your hands, or it will get worse than this.
trust me, i was in your place once.
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reader, lil mama101 +, writes (12 June 2005):
I was the same exact way. I have been hurt so many times it just you got to find the right person and learn to trust them and give yourself to them slowly. You have to go at a very slow pace. It took me a while but I learned how to trust.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (10 June 2005):
 Please see a therapy specialist. They can help you get to the root of the problem and help you deal. Take care
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (10 June 2005):
 My guess is that you may have been really hurt in the past and this is why you are having difficulty trusting anyone. You don't want to be let down and you are protecting yourself. However, the down side to this is that you are pushing away people who could mean a lot to you in your life.
I would suggest counselling to explore exactly why you feel this way and to discover ways and means of building your confidence again. That way, the doubts will decrease and you will begin to live life again.
Trusting people will always be a risk but if you really think about whether any of your close friends have ever truely let you down, you will probably find that they haven't. Work on this and go forward.
Good luck.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (10 June 2005):
 Hi, We all hope that we will never get hurt in life, but sometimes the more we try not to get hurt, the more we are subceptable to being hurt. I think that you may feel better if you were to maybe speak to somebody proffesional about this. They understand what makes people depressed and upset about life and they are 100% confidentional. Talking things over with someone else does always help, and makes you feel less alone. Maybe there is a friend or relative that you can confide in, if not go along to your GP and explain your concerns to them, and they can advise you on the next step and refer you to the right people that can help. Its nothing to be ashamed off, we all need help at some point in our lives and the sooner you get to speak to someone the easier it will be for you. I really hope that you can get to speak to someone as it really will help you to not feel so alone, there are many people out there that feel that same way. Writing here was the first step, now take another step and go along and speak to your GP and they can put you on the right road.Take careGood luck x x
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (10 June 2005):
I was in the same boat. CHILL OUT! If they don't treat you like their friend, they're NOT your friends!!! Its their loss. I would much rather have 1 good friend, or even none at all, than have a million people who aren't really my friends, if you know what I mean. Just take it easy on yourself, give time to yourself for a while and if people don't treat you right ditch em!! their not worth it. Your the most important thing in your life!! always rememeber that, there is only one of you and no one can change that. If you cant trust people, dont trust them until your ready. If someone likes you enough then they will try the hardest they can to make you trust them, otherwise, there simply not worth it!!!Take time out for you. You will be fine. It's times like these when you have to become a little selfish!! thinking about yourself for a while isnt a bad thing. Dont think about what other people think or what they do. Think about you!
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