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writes:Not really a relationship question, but more of a problem exacerbated by breaking up. I'm so bored! HELP ME!It's monday. I don't have college. It's raining. I don't have the car. My old friends who lived nearby have gone to univeristy. All my current friends live on the other end of the city.I just have nothing to do!! I miss having a girlfriend at a time like this. Somebody I could just text message, or even call at a time where I have absolutely nothing to do... And for many of the reasons listed above, I can't go out and find myself another. I'm trapped in the house. I stopped paying much attention to my friends in the 2 years I was with her, and now I feel like I've lost a lot of people close to me. Paying the price in some way, but keeping a long distance relationship steady required a lot of attention and affectionFaced with these circumstances, what do you do? This may be every Monday and Tuesday for me for the next several months! I can't stand it!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): WOW!!!!I have the feeling that you are still hurt about your breakup and that is why you feel lonely and bored. You know two years in a long term relationship is a long time. I could relate to you since I am myself on one. However, now that you have no girlfriend, take it to your advantage. Take time for your self and what you really like and want to do in life. You are still young. You could go back to school, take a course on line since you are home and on the internet a lot. Read.. and remember Things happens for a reason.. your relationship was not meant to be; you just can’t understand why you two broke up right now.. but I am sure that with time you will understand that it was not meant to be…
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question And for the record, you're advice was appreciated. Your assumption was not.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, since you want to continue to challenging my question;
Lets say you had a boyfriend. He lived over 200 miles away from you, hardly the most practical circumstance. Only able to contact eachother via phone, text or internet. After 2 years of having that person, who you had to work your arse off to make things work by meerly communicating with them, unable to have anything else to do with them until the occasions you can meet eachother (about every 7 weeks), they break up with you due to the circumstances. Do you not think you would miss having the feeling of knowing they are there for you in some way? Deep down, you know that no matter how bad, or quiet your day is, you can atleast send them a text message?
Having that taken away from me is like a knife in my chest.
You miss having a girlfriend around to talk when they gone, even if through electronic devices.
I see how I could have given you the impression that i saw my girlfriend as just a "pass time", but the fact that that is the assumption that you jumped to is just horrendous, in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): Well, that is what you made it sound like when you said that there was nothing to do, and you missed having a g.f. at times like that, when you were bored. So what do you expect me to think? If you are going to get mad when ppl. give you advice, why are you even on here?
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (1 October 2007):
 That is a terrific idea, for you to write. I too would read it! :)
Hope you're feeling better!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 October 2007):
 You could write about lost love, you've got some experience along those lines. Maybe give it a happy ending and hope for the vibe to carry over into real life, eh?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's fair, eyeswideopen. I did not mean to be rude, but an implication with no logic behind it was given out there, and I didn't like it.
Short stories. Interesting idea. I just wish I had any clue of what to write about. haha.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 October 2007):
Simmer down there Andy old pal. That Aunt probably is not aware of your romantic history as are the rest of us. You know with your writing skills maybe you should start writing short stories or maybe a novel. I'd read it ;)
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd now I think I should question the anonymous answer;
Why the hell should you be glad we split up!? We split up because of circumstance, and now I happen to be bored. I didn't see my girlfriend as some kind of "Pass time" so if that's what you're implying, then miss, to hell with you.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, I've heard it a few times now.
A) I already have a job, with no extra hours avaliable to me. Not even over the summer!
B) There is a gym, but it's pretty far out of the way.
Nice ideas though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): If that is why you miss having a girlfriend because you're bored, I am sure glad you two broke up. Maybe you should take more classes next semester, or get a job like everyone else has said..
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Hi,
Get a job.
Not only will you get a bit of money, but you can meet new people and maybe make some new friends.
Its no good sitting on your bum waiting for it to come to you. It wont will it?.
I know it can be hard, when you break up and feel on your own. But plowing yourself into a job or a hobbie will really get you on the move again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): Hi! Too easy to do in a relationship to lose touch with friends, your probs are also quite geographical with people moving away to uni. You must work with what youve got, when at college try hooking up with people who live near your area-you could study together and build on that to go for drinks,etc.Through them u could meet new girlfrind. Will take time to develop new friendships but rome not built in a day!Maybe even get a part time job for those rainy mondays, somewhere you can meet people and they have work nights out.Good luck!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): Is it not an option to get a part time job? Or maybe arrange to visit a family member while you have the chance. You have all day to wait for buses.
Perhaps join a gym and do a couple of hours there on a monday or tuesday, go swimming etc.
I think you need to open your mind to the options available. Do things that you usually wouldnt.
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reader, terrifenby +, writes (1 October 2007):
 there is never any thing to do! i have had days like these where you feel asthough life is passing you by, leaving you behind, but the trick is to do some thing about it!! have you got a job? if not get one that way you will be doing some thing and getting money to spend on yourself! if you have got a job ask for more hours if thats possible! go for a walk, as lame as it sounds it will clear your mind and help you come up with things to do! and you aint gona get a girlfriend sitting round the house all day, so get out and look! have confidence be proud, but please dont be bored
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