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writes:So I have been studying abroad for about 9 months and have almost 2 months exactly left.I am 22 years old, will be 23 in a few months and haven't had experience with dating for the last few years. The last "girlfriend" I had was in High School. Since I entered University I have been busy with studying and working I guess, so surprisingly haven't had much of a social life.Now anyway, my question is. There is a girl here in this foreign country that I think I may have liked for about 7 months. But I haven't really made much of an effort, due to lack of experience dating and slight social ineptitude highly enhanced by the months of language barriers I had living in this foreign country. Anyway I only have two months left. Do you think I should ask this girl out on a date? To go out for dinner or something? I have her number because we have been 'friends' but not close friends for the last few months. She seems nice to me when I do see her.There is one problem though, there is another exchange student who is interested in this girl. I think he just recently became interested and talks to her often and asked her out to eat once. To be honest this guy isn't a very nice guy from the 'glory' stories of him sleeping with tons of girls at night clubs and whatnot.The last 3 months or so, I have felt lonely due to the fact of not dating or having a girlfriend for so long and would like to try my hand at it. Not to mention, a big reason why I chose to study in this country is because I did find the girls highly attractive (I know stupid reason, but the truth nonetheless.)I will most likely feel a sense of regret if I don't attempt to date a girl here, because it was one of my reasons for coming here, again I know it sounds foolish. Should I go for it although I only have 2 months left, and there is currently another guy pursuing her?
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (9 June 2008):
 i dont think it would be a bad idea for you to ask her out, but it would be hard for this to be a seriouse relationship once you returned home. so i would say go out with her, but dont make her your girlfriend because unless you are willing to go back to where she lives after you return home then it will probably not work. long distance relationships have a hard time of working out. but i dont think it would do any harm if you asked her out to dinner.
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reader, babymamma626 +, writes (9 June 2008):
 I'd say go for it? I mean honestly what have you got to lose? You could very well end up regretting it if you didn't at least try. If she turns you down, hey you've still got a friend and you've got the dignity on the inside of being able to say hey I gave it an honest shot. Don't worry about rejection EVER...it will only get you down! Try and try again!
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