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writes:I've recently had a lot of trouble getting over a break up. It happened a few months ago and I'm still not over her. I feel the reasons were unjust and upon asking again why, the same reasons...I could talk to nearly anyone about it before but now I don't talk to anyone. I try to channel my feelings through creative works and stuff but it's not enough. I don't know who to turn to. I don't want to talk to my friends about it because none of them have gone through the same thankfully, and I'm also worried about them just being generally sick of my moping and me talking about the incident which happened months ago. I really don't know who to turn to. Any suggestions on how to get over this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): You will be over her soon and you will never want her back.
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reader, INCREDIBLEME01  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I am sorry you are hurting. It is normal, but no less painful hearing that. You are not less of a man for feeling this way, nor admitting it. we have all been there. After a break up, even one initiated by myself, there is still hurt and anger. You miss the dreams and faith you had with this person however futuristic that may have been. Stop asking yourself if she will ever come back. Live your life as though she isn't. You are wise to keep busy, continue to do so. Don't force yourself to "date" if you are not ready for it, as it will only remind you of the love you have for her and how you miss spending time with HER. Instead go on group outtings with no pressure to entertain another woman. Just enjoy yourself. Hell if no one is inviting you to hang out, invite youself, or initiate an outting yourself. Leave your cell at home if there is a chance you will call her after a few drinks. If you don't drink, better yet. If you can, change your phone number and email address so you don't look constantly to see if you missed her call. Block her from any social sites, not to ne vindictive, but to heal from your hurt and your closure. Don't obsess. Give yourself some slack, and heck maybe get on this site and give some advice on any topic that you feel someone will benefit from. It will keep you busy and possibly see your life could be a whole lot worse. Godd luck, you will get through this, all it takes is time, I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Listen, we have all been there. It is very hard and when you have really fallen for someone, it can take more than a few months to totally get back on your feet. So don't feel there is anything wrong. Don't agonize about the ins and outs, whether you could have done anything differently, what was said etc etc. It will change nothing and you will find no answers. You will get over it and you will be happy again. The best thing is to throw yourself into something, school work, sport, anything to push the thoughts from the forefront of your brain. If you can not talk to anyone, try writing it all down, it can help to put it all down on paper, everyday, a bit of a journal. Take care and good luck.
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