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writes: I have liked this guy for 15 years. In fact I think I am falling in love with him. I don't get to spend much time with him and when we do see each other we hardly speak because I am too shy. He recently ivited me to his flat so that I could see it for the first time and it was great. We spent hours chatting. Since then, things have not changed but my feelings for him are getting stronger and stronger. I dream about marrying him and having his children. Should I tell him how and feel or should I just stop dreaming? How do you tell someone that you wanna marry him and have his children? What if he doesn't feel the same way?
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reader, abbiee  +, writes (23 November 2010):
i think you should defo tell him, because at some point he might meet someone and then u will defenatley not tell him, if u dont want to tell him face to face text him or email him, but i suggest you should tell him about the children and whole marrying thing lol,but tell him and who knows he might feel the same way and once he knows you may feel more convident around him and usually once the guys knows they usually start liking u bk so DEFO tell him, hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): i'm in exactly same situ started off as lust 4 yrs ago and now i love him so much his personality smile caring approach as well as his gorgeous looks but i will never ask him out or tell him how i feel we speak occasionally but i'm too shy and its never gonna happen but in back of my mind i really want to tell him so go for it u can always pretend u were drunk ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): you shouldn't tell him that you want to bare his children or marry him that will scare him away , i to have the same problem with talking to the guy i like and i toled him i liked him , just tell him you like him ask that this doesn't make things awkward and you'll do your best to talk to him " it should work it did for me " =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): I like a guy too and I can't tell if he likes me so I am just going to ask him out when I feel the time is right and if he says yes then I will be very happy and if he says no then I can always find someone else. No use crying over spilled milk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): THERE IS SOMEONE I LIKE AS WELL AND I REALLY DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM HE ALWAYWS ASKS IF I AM ALRIGHT AND HE ALWAYWS SMILES AND RAISES HIS EYE BROWS AT ME AND I AM FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): well what you should do is not to be shy ! tell him you love him then ask him if he feels the same way , and if he doesn't just remember you can still be friends ! But im sure he has a lil something for you ! so give it a try girl ! love amz xxxxxxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2005): Sorry this isnt a very long Reply, but maybe try and bring that subject up. That might be something to chat about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2005): weirddddd...your obviously not that shy if you were "chatting for hours"..it takes 2 to chat. andd liked him for 15 years??.. im shore. he must know how you feel at least a little bit. and after 15 years you still cant talk to the guy?..maybe its not shyness. is he really worth wasting your life over? if he is then you must be able to talk to him. if you cant then you dont want to marry him or have his babies. imagine marrying him and not talking to him because you're "too shy".. and dont tell him you want to do that, it'll freak him out. stop being such a baby and ask him out. if he says no it looks like you wont be having his babies. if he says yes then BOOM get it into ya. just dont be so paranoid and scared. who knows, he might want to have your babies too. ARTIFICIALLY INSEMINATE HIMMMMMM. all the luck to ya.
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reader, babygurl +, writes (31 May 2005):
I think the best thing to do is tell him that you're interested and want to get to know him.
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reader, kiwi +, writes (31 May 2005):
I know how you feel. I have been in the same position before. But I found someone else later on down the line who I now love and been with for 3 years. But what I'm trying to say is it's only a matter of time before he finds someone else, so if you really want him you need to tell him. But it is also a matter of time for you to because you could find someone else that's way better than him. So just go for it before it's too late!!!!!!
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reader, dannielle_01 +, writes (30 May 2005):
If you have liked...or even loved this guy for over a decade, then surely you must have given him some signals as a sign that you like the guy! This guy has invited you to his flat, and has been a friend for so many years, then you must feel comfortable enough to tell him your feelings. When you next speak to him next, ask him to go for a drink somewere? If you're too nervous, then plan what your going to say, and memorise it so it makes it easier for you. You will feel soo much better by telling him your feelings, and if the worst comes out of it, at least you know in your heart you have tried and can move on with your life to someone who truly will appreciate you and your love.Good luck!!
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reader, alison +, writes (30 May 2005):
I think you just need to tell him how you feel. Talk to him and find out if he likes you in the same way. If you're worried that he doesn't like you in the same way, hint that you like him and when he realises that you like him, if he doesn't like you you can tell him you were just being friendly and this will save you some embarrassement and awkwardness.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (30 May 2005):
 You can't be too shy if you spent hours talking to him at his flat!I think if you tell him that you want to marry him and have his babies, it might just scare him off! Instead, find the courage to suggest going out together, perhaps for a drink, and develop initially a friendship that may blossom into romance.Its okay to dream but try to be realistic. Take it slowly and see what happens.Good Luck.
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reader, star3482 +, writes (30 May 2005):
If you tell him you want to marry him and have his children he'll run a mile. Just tell him you like him and then go on dates for a while, til you get to know how him as a partner - what will be, will be, but don't come on too strong! Men like a challenge and like to have to work for a lady's attention. xxx
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (30 May 2005):
 Try to work out a solution in the middle. That means do not tell him you want to bear his children since that will scare any teen guy, that is worthy of your devotion away. But don't give up and miss out on all the fun either. Flirt by fixing your eyes a bit longer than a friend would and find him funny. I'm sure that will be easy. Make it clear that you like him but don't make it seem too easy. You are hot for the guy so make the most of the drama and have some fun. He will enjoy this if he likes you too and will be encouraged to show it back. But if he does not like you he can save face and so can you. If he does not like you the same way, just act as if you are innocent and playful. Not cheap. A little tease can go along way and get him dreaming of you. And that is where you want him to be- dreaming of you, then loving you and marriage at this point is fine dreams but skipping all the real fun! And how fun this could be if you go slow and make him work for you a bit. This will make him decide you are the one for him and you will be able to relax into the relationship. If you go too fast you will always wonder if he is a dog who used you since it was so easy. Women determine their own value then command that price in the market place of love.
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