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writes:i need help. any advise? i am so crazy in love with my ex girlfriend it is sickening. we have been apart for about a month and a half now. i took the step and called her yesterday from a pay phone due to her blocking my cell phone number previously. i talked to her on the pay phone for a little while. she then said to me, she was going to unblock my number and call me right back. she then did so. we talked for about 2 hours about things that have been going on with each other. she then ended up saying she was confused and didnt know what she wanted. she told me i am absolutely perfect for her except for one thing. i have ocd. and it is alot for one person to deal with. it is now under control and i told her that. she told me she still had feelings for me but is currently seeing someone else. we talked again the following morning, exchanged pics of each other through the cell phones and everything was going great. she then told me she is very sorry she said what she said last night, about having feelings for me still. then i had to go for the moment and told her i would call her back. she said ok no problem. i go to call her back and my number is now blocked again. i do not know what to do now. i love her so much and do not want to be with anyone else. i have no idea why she blocked my number again out of the blue and i dont know what to do. has anyone ever met that person they know for a fact they are meant to be with? that is how this is. i will never stop loving her and will do anything in my power to get her back. any advice please?
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reader, furnace  +, writes (9 November 2015):
I think it is better u find a gf for now so that u can ease from ur 'blocked emotions' to her. If she ain't wanna see ya then ain't none u can do, accapt 'what is', so insted of tryna to change her dicision u should "give her space & time so that she feels her feelings for u"; if u don't call her at all u are giving her time to miss & worry about u (and u mustn't hold on to that hope as u go 'no contact' but instead see someone so that u won't worry much of her - I know how it feels to be blocked by a lover, if u do as I text she'll wonder if she made the correct decision & will hopefully reach out to u & when she does tell her "I'm only romanticaly interested in u so please stop contacting me unless u change u've mind" & walk away & never loock back... If she loves u she'll come back, if she doesn't in 2-3 months then assume it's over, God has a greater plan for u (don't chase after someone who values not ur attention).
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (15 August 2009):
 "she then told me she is very sorry she said what she said last night"Thats your answer. I am afraid she is done with you for whatever reason. I hate to tell you, but she is trying to tell you to move on. Unfortunately her saying what I quoted her from your post means that she is sorry that she gave you any false hope of getting back together. And rather than just being honest with you she talked to you for two hours and blocked you again. Pretty much standard way that people tell you its over for good these days as opposed to it being to your face. Sad but true.Yeah it hurts like hell. Many of us have felt the same pain. But it really does get better with time.Concentrate on yourself. You cant make someone love you, but you can put your best foot forward towards someone who has the possibility of doing so. Move on
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (15 August 2009):
 OCD is an insidious disease. With the proper medication you can control it. The problem is the effect it has on the people who truly love you.
You need to focus on improving your OCD through behavioral modification techniques so that you are not so dependent on meds to control it.
At least give it a try and do it through professional observation and controls, not on your own.
She's afraid of what can happen when you're out of control. You don't see it because the OCD masks your ability to objectively observe your own behavior. However, she has probably seen you when you were not in very good shape. So this has concerned her enough to try and stay away and move on with her life.
This doesn't mean she doesn't love you. She's just afraid and its very hard to find someone with that kind of mental strength and courage to be in a relationship with you under these circumstances.
With enough time, treatment and hopefully luck you will be better. Its hard to say this to you, but you deserve love, but whomever you love deserves to feel secure and happy when she's around you.
Your ex doesn't feel secure and happy when she's around you, and so she has tried to walk away.
She blocked your number because she's afraid you might abuse her cellphone by calling her over and over again. Whether there is a basis in fact for this theory I would not know but I get the feeling you can judge that better than us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I'm backing Q1605! Really good answer mate!! wnder if i cud have ur advice...
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (14 August 2009):
It sounds like she hasn't quite dealt with her feelings towards you. Nevertheless, she blocked you for a reason. It's hard to move on from someone who means so much to you and where emotions were involved. But if she doesn't want to talk to you there's really not much you can do except give her space. Perhaps after some time she'll reach out to you again. But you shouldn't put your life on hold waiting to see if it happens.
As the old saying goes....set her free, if she comes back, it was meant to be.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): You need to give her time to decide what SHE wants. It may take a while... it may take weeks or months. You want her to do this slowly so she doesn't yo-yo on you and go back and forth...
Give her some space- you've said your peice... consider an old fashoned letter...
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