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41-50,
*ovesick88
writes:Here is my story... I was dating a girl for over a year and the entire time we were together things were great. A few months into the relationship she began always asking me to buy her an engagement ring and a house we could live in. At first I didn't pay much attention to it, but as time went on I began having deeper feelings for her. I took a second job so I could save more money to buy her an engagement ring, and make a down payment on a home, but at the same time our relationship began to suffer a little because I started to have to work almost 70 hours a week sometimes, so I couldn't take her out as much and the time we did spend together we would just kinda hang around the house. Long story short, over the summer I felt we began to become more distant from eachother, less affectionate and physical, and at the same time she got anew group of friends, and was always talking about two specific guys in general. I didn't pay much attention to it, but then she started acting weird towards me, and I started getting a terrible feeling inside if my gut. One night while she was sleeping i looked through her phone and saw that she had been texting one of these guys saying things like good morning and telling calling him papi, and the one that hurt the most was seeing the message that said she had fun wrestling in the bed with him. I dont know why i didnt say anything, i think it was because i loved her so much, i didnt want to lose her. A few weeks went by and she kept in contact with this guy, always texting him in front of me, till one night we got into a huge argument about it. She told me she wouldnt talk to him anymore and that was that. She has many issues, i knew that about her, but at the same time i loved her so i looked past them. Shed always cry because she said she hated my job becasue i wouldnt get home until after 1030 at night, and i wouldnt get to spend time with her and she would tell me that if i got her pregnant my children would never see there children. So, i ended up quitting my job, the one i went to school for for two years, and a week later see broke up with me. Why did she break up with me? I never got a real explanation, but i always had a feeling deep down in my heart that it was because she was persuing other guys. I was devastated, my world had crumbled, and for the two months we were split up, i was miserable. I felt i needed to do something to change myself, so i applied for a 9-5 office job with a family member of mine, and got the job. At the same time me and my girlfriend began talking again, and we started looking at apartments together. We were offically back together, and had found a place to move into, but my family member caught wind of my plans, and told me if i moved out, that i would loose my job. I freaked out, and told her that i couldnt move out with her and she left me again. A few days later i called her up telling her i felt like i had made a mistake, but she said it was too little too late, and i found out that she had aloready found another guy she was seeing. I was crushed again, and i tried contacting her a couple of times, but hse completely ignored me, and the other day i got a letter from her saying that if i ever try to contact her again in any way, she will contact the police and have me arrested for harrassment. I'm so hurt right now I dont know what to do.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (8 February 2011):
I would leave her alone because it sounds like she's a gold digger and a gold digger is never satisfied and I will never quit my job to please a women, I am a women.
She just want to get what she can and move on to the next guy. A close friend of mine got married after knowing the guy for less than a year, had a baby, had him to buy a house and 6 months later she had him put out and he has to make the payments on the house because she's not working and has small children and now another man is living in the house, she played that game to get what she wanted, she never loved him and never kept a job, I know her very well, she's my friend, I tell her all the time she is wrong. Be very careful with some of these women out here, they are out to get you.
I think the reason she say she will call the police is because she doesn't want you to come in contact with her new bf
Goog luck
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