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writes:I've been seeing someone for about 8 mths. things go great for a couple of mths then all of a sudden he pulls away and hardly speaks to me. This has happened twice and after the last time I wasn't going to bother with him any more as this hurts me. But that changed when he told me that he realized this last time that he loves me and that he is sure that he wants us to continue to see each other that there is no doubt and he will show me, etc. So I gave him another chance and we spent the weekend together, after that he wouldn't talk to me and didn't come outside to spend my break with me like he usually does. I asked him to talk to me after work for 10 mins and he got really frustrated with me it was obvious that I was only making him angry. 5 days later I am still sitting here wondering what is going on and he still hasn't called me or offered any explanation as to what is happening. I am so hurt don't know what to do.
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reader, mid-life  +, writes (8 December 2007):
Get out now! I wasted 8 years on a similar relationship. He will never change. The writer above is right - RUN!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): I spent 8 years at the mercy of a similar man. Don't waste your time. Get out now... he will never change and your confidence and self-belief will diminish further and further until you're left believing it's your fault. The person above is right... RUN!
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (7 December 2007):
 I had the same thing happen to me though we didn't ever go out but we had a "flirty friendship" at work for 8 months. He would rev things up telling me he "liked me very much" until it was at a point where we should have been going on a date but then he'd back away. When he did this I backed way away and then he would chase me again until it would get to a point where it would get serious then he backed off. I made the decision to just walk away and though it is very hard because I simply don't know what is going on here and deep down I think there is something there but he's got some kind of fear of committment or thinking there's someone better than me or whatever. You just can't put your self esteem through that. I agree with the others, find someone who can come to the dance floor. By the way, I am the same age as you and I find it amusing that the men our age can be so immature. Good luck to you.
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (7 December 2007):
 Dont waste your time on a relationship that leaves you behind and walks in and out of your life when they please. He is being very immature and you dont need this negative attitude. Walk away from this, i mean he is pushing you as far as you can go. You said you were going to give him one more chance, well it seems to me this one more chance is over. Move on and get something better in your life. Someone that can committ to a relationship as well as you. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): i think you should ether brake up with him for good. look how hes treating you
i hope it turns out good in the end.
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