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writes:Please help:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now and love him so much. It's marriage for sure. He's the most geniune guy I know and would never do anything or cheat on me. Hes not the type. Neither am I, but was out with my girlfriends the other night and got too drunk and I apparently kissed someone. I can barely remember this which doesn't excuse it at all. I'm feeling a little guilty even though I would never go out and kiss someone on purpose. I am digusted to think I have done this but should I tell my boyfriend and risk losing him? Please answer back.
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reader, polarkite  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 If you tell him, the important thing is how you tell him, how well prepared you are, where you are, etc. Be mindful of him and his feelings. Obviously he's going to be really upset, so be prepared for it, and apologize and let him know how you didn't mean it and are really sorry.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Marriage for sure huh? Geez I wonder what you'd get up to on your hen night... That said, its probably best not to mention the fact that you kissed some random guy. I only say this cos there's been 3 years worth of emotional investment in this relationship and you're already in your 30s (I'm assuming the bf is too). If you were 25-29, my advice would be totally different
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reader, BigSis +, writes (28 March 2008):
 I'm leaning towards agreeing with Edward here. What he doesn't know wont hurt and try and forget it.
I know you feel guilty, and if you think for one moment he'll go bananas, then keep it under your hat.
If you can trust your friends not to say anything, then leave it.
Any chance of them falling out with you for whatever reason, they may spill. So be careful.
Take care.
BigSis xXx
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reader, Edward183 +, writes (27 March 2008):
Depends if your other mates know or not?.
If not then I'd keep it to yourself, but if you friends do know then I'd tell your boyfriend as to be the first person to let him know, so as he doesn't know second hand.
Personally I'd put it down to a bad experience and move on and don't do it again!.
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