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writes: My boyfriend of three years doesn't sleep with me, have sex with me, or give me any physical affection for months at a time. I've expressed my feelings with him, I've tried to make the first move, and I've even resorted to splitting up to "get it somewhere else". He will give in to intimacy for a few days, and then completely stop for many months. We have a son together and I want things to work out, but I don't feel satisfied. What should I do?Hopelessly confused Reply to this Question
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reader, Kristen-4 +, writes (18 January 2006):
Hey Sweetheart,
You need to stop and think can I really spend the rest of my life like this? You need that affection and love. You need to know that you are loved and wanted and sex is a big part in that. Tiah I love you and only want the best for you. Please think really hard about what you want and need, what is best for that little boy! Their are so many fish in the sea.
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reader, Sharoney +, writes (8 November 2005):
Has this always been the case or is your boyfriends lack of affection a new thing? If it has always been the way perhaps he just has a very low sex drive, some people have a greater need for intamacy than others. If he used to be affectionate with you in the past, you need to consider what has caused this change in him; is he unhappy or depressed? Feeling trapped? Stressed at work? All these things can contgribute to a person shutting off their emotions, and can make them seem cold to the people who love them. Your boyfriend, the one you fell in love with, is still in there, maybe hes just a little lost and needs help in finding his way back. I really sympathise with you though, it does seem confusing when someone who says they love you doesn't express it, but maybe that's just how he is. If you think he needs help with depression or stress, encourage him to talk to his GP if he feels unable to voice it with you.
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