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*uckycloud
writes:He's liked me for almost 6months. I tried to open my heart, got to know him, and after a while I fell for him a little more and more each day. Besides, seems like some of my actions got him confused and hurt as well.Suddenly right when I thought we could start new, he was back away from me and said that we wont fit each other well, we wont be happy in the future. He just said we are different without any real reasons/explanations. And he cried a lot when he said that. What does that mean? I thought that he was just "sudden" getting confused or not trust me enough ... So I hope that after two weeks totally no contact, he would figure out in the positive way. But I broke down inside today when he didnt even want to walk me home when we both finished at midnight. and he ignored me just like I dont even exist. [the point is "differences" used to be my reason from the beginning when I stayed away from him cause I feel scared of being in a relationship, but he chased away all my fears ... and gradually touched me from the inside that he's really honest and trustworthy]Therefore, right now, I'm confused about everything: what are the real reasons? what did he feel when he said those things and cried? what does he feel now? and what is he thinking? I'm totally lost in nowhere wondering why? how? what happened? does he still have feeling for me? will he ever come back to me? [what Im afraid the most is that he no longer wants to be with me, to try together .. :(][it kills me][but I cant do anything rather than accept the truth! it hurts so bad :(]I should probably move on, but this confusion is just stuck in my mind. And I dont even know how to move on right now, except a trip that I planned months ago. And I would definitely not want to start any relationship or look for anyone. I close my heart again from now. and still save a corner of my heart for him?you can say "just let it go, if it comes back, it's yours, and it it wont, it was never yours" - but all I feel now is that I regret about everything .. :(Those days, I knew that I should slow down things to make sure. but when it happened in unexpected way, my heart is now broken. :(If anyone could help me, thanks!
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (28 June 2011):
I reckon a card and a letter are so nice - he's a lucky man - if he doesnt melt at that he's a fool :)
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reader, luckycloud +, writes (28 June 2011):
luckycloud is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much for the sympathy :)
We were so close. And I let him know every of my feelings: when I started to fall for him, when I want to lean on him ... so he knows that I really truly like him. We hugged, and he kissed me on the forehead and the cheek. I let him do that, and I told him that I feel comfortable with him, no more afraid. He knows that I want to be with him.
Yesterday I also made him a card and wrote him a letter which are to confirm my feeling for him, and let him know that he's special to me, and that he can trust me.
I feel like I tried my best already.
Will he re-contact with me in some ways? :( I hate seeing each other in cold like this. :(
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reader, ironman777 +, writes (27 June 2011):
Hi - dont beat yourself up about this - you did what you thought was right and took little steps along the way - the fact that it didn't match up with your boyfriends is unfortunate but happens all the time and suggests you werent as perfect together as he thought.
In my experience the more you sink into yourself now, and into regret the harder it will be for him to re establish contact with you, or for you to meet someone else. Allow yourself an hour each day if you must but limit it so it doesnt consume you.
I hope he sees sense after persuing you so hard for so long - dont worry feels of love dont just evaporate overnight, they persist for long time.
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