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writes:ok, so theres this guy who ive liked for 2 yrs now. We talked we hung out and then it seem like he fell off the face of the earth. Then about 5 months ago we ended up hanging out with mutal friends and he was telling strangers i was his wife, but we went our seprete ways and i figured i wouldnt talk to him until we bumped into each other, he text me the next morning and we text back and forth for a couple hours. And texted everynight for the next couple nights. I invited him to go out with us all one night, again not expecting him to come, he showed up we laughed he bought me seirra mist shots, im pregnant, when they were all having regular shots. We all ended up going to my cousins and he road with me. He asked me if i was with my ex and told me if i ever needed him to call and he'd come. they were playing a drinkin game and i was charging his phone because he had bent the charger so it wouldnt charge on it own. He told me his sister was moving back to town and then id get to know her. the next day i text him telling him how i felt then he ignored all my text everything. My cousin said he'll come around after i have my baby. Last night we both showed up at our town legion for an event and we talked about that night how we should do it again. And how he should go to wisconsin with me for Packers training camp. he has me so confused. I dont know what to think. Sorry so long i need someones help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): "then it seem like he fell off the face of the earth"He was busy and you were not a priority."he was telling strangers i was his wife"This is bizarre...just bizarre."they were all having regular shots"Drink and good judgement and good behavior don't mix. Guys say all sorts of shit when they are drinking, women do as well. None of it means anything."if i ever needed him to call and he'd come"But, he didn't."they were playing a drinkin game"Are you sure he doesn't have an alcohol problem?"i text him telling him how i felt then he ignored all my text everything"Basically, he doesn't sound very reliable. He may talk up a good talk when he is drinking, but that isn't real. What is real is someone who likes you and comes to see you when sober and real themselves.You are vulnerable, and wanting to be "more" to someone, and he's not the guy.Just because you are having a baby doesn't mean that you are not "good enough" to have someone who really loves you. That baby is good enough to have two someones who love it as well. Hold on to your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneveryone was tellin me to tell him that i liked him. Hes 5yrs older than i am
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reader, Wheeler +, writes (27 June 2011):
 It sounds like he is a nice guy, but not someone you know well enough to really put yourself out there just yet.I think you left out the most important part of what happened, and will need to clarify for us to best provide advice. You said, "the next day I text him telling him how I felt then he ignored all my text everything."What did you tell him, and why did you decide to tell him this? Had he indicated that he was interested in something more? I know he asked about a few things, but what about his situation? It can be a lot to handle when there is a baby and pregnancy involved. I am interested in knowing his age, too. During this time you are probably feeling rather vulnerable too, so I would be very careful to guard your heart and not invest too much in anything a guy says if you don't know him well. Especially if he is young.He may act one way when the two of you are together, but have a very different thing in mind when he is not with you. The fact that he didn't respond to your text speaks volumes about what he actually feels about you. So, be careful and don't put yourself out there any more than you already have.Please let us know a little more about what you said when you texted him, and what led up to your decision to tell him of your feelings.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 OK well it could be possible that this man likes you as a friend and wants to be there for you for that reason. But I guess your feelings run deeper than that. It could be a case as well that he does like you but that he is scared to take the plunge because he knows you are pregnant and might feel that it would be to much hassle.I think the best way you can deal with this once and for all is to just ask him straight out how does he feel about you and does he think that you could ever be more than just friends. Good luck.
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