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writes:Girls...OK, Let me give you a brief understanding of my background in dating.Im 14, 15 in a few days and I have never been on a date, Never asked a girl out and now im interested in them, they are very confusing.So, I have no experience yet all of a sudden there's 2 girls. One I feel sexually attracted to and another that we are good friends but I think she has some hidden feelings about me and me for her. The first girl I think I have come to the stage were I have realised that she isnt for me but this second girl is really confusing me.There has been many occasions where people have believed that we're dating along with a few rude sexual gestures that has given a weird reaction from her like she wanted it to look like she found it disgusting but it looks like theres something else going through her mind.I have got mixed pictures from her and its really confusing. I could really use some views from female readers on whats going on and what I should do.Thanks for reading Reply to this Question
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reader, SmartnessAintHelping +, writes (31 July 2009):
SmartnessAintHelping is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Charlpop for your help and ill see how it plans out. I think she isnt happy after her friend and her broke up. she hasnt been at school for afew days so Ill just give it some time.
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reader, Charlpop  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 I'm glad I was able to give you some extra perspective on the situation!
I think it's a good idea to give it some time, but you could perhaps build on your friend relationship with her in the meantime, start hanging out with her more? And get to know her better? It'll probably make it easier to talk to her about your relationship when you feel ready to.
Good Luck =)
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reader, SmartnessAintHelping +, writes (30 July 2009):
SmartnessAintHelping is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCharlpop
This is some useful info you have given me and has given me some idea on whats going on. I have noticed that when shes chatting with this guy she just chats and just hangs out but when she is talking with me or even before we start talking she would start up just a time waster game that we play during class by hitting me... not hard and then id hit her back. we would keep hitting each other for afew mins then stop, but it would start all over again within afew mins. I also thort it was just fun and games but from what your saying it may just be something ive mist.
I also noticed the other day that while we were working on the computer, she was watching me. So I dont know I think I might give it some time as she resintly lost a friend.
Thanks
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (29 July 2009):
Hey!
Okay, trust me on this, girls are uber afraid of rejection, so no wonder you're feeling confused - we don't usually make it obvious when we like someone!
The first question you've got to ask yourself is, do you really like *second girl*, or do you just like her as a friend?
I do agree with 'a dodgy bloke' [previous answer], but if you're not really into 'biting the bullet', and to be honest, you do want to keep *second girl* as friend, and things might be a bit awkward afterwards!
If you're a drinker, then [I am NOT promoting drinking - this is if you're going to do it any time soon!] see how she acts around you when she's drunk.
If she tries to kiss you, then she wants to kiss you sober, she just doesn't want to be rejected.
If she doesn't kiss you, there's still a 50/50 chance - sorry for the vagueness lol.
If you're not a drinker [good on you!] see how much contact she gives you.
Eye contact, physical contact, that sort of stuff.
You say you're both friends, so... Does she look at you or make excuses to touch you more than her other guy friends?
If yes, then I think you could assume she likes you.
Hope this helps!
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reader, A dodgy bloke +, writes (29 July 2009):
 I feel your pain man. Look, girls are the hardest things to understand EVER. So, if I were you I would just be straight with her. Get her on her own, talk to her. But do it in a way that says I'll appreciate you. Ask her if she would be interested in an 'us'. My girlfriend was with someone, but i told her how much i loved her and how amazing she was and we kissed, then a lot of fighting, but now we're together. Bite the bullet man. Worst that happens is she says no. God speed.
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reader, SmartnessAintHelping +, writes (29 July 2009):
SmartnessAintHelping is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would also like to state that I wish to keep her as my friend. I dont want to lose her as a friend.
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