A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello all. Before you read this please read this article I posted a few weeks back. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-just-cant-seem-to-just-give-up.htmlLots has happened since I posted that and I don't know what kind of dillema I got myself into this time. So this last weekend on Friday night she calls me at the wee hours in the morning, leaves me a drunken voicemail saying we should talk and she loves me. Mind, you she has a new boyfriend. I was like WTF but whatever didnt do anything about it. So the next day she starts texting me sayign we should go to a movie and she wants to bring back old times. I asked her why since she has a new bf but she just said it woudl be a good starting spot for friends. Well she asked a few times and I told her no that would just be ackward. Well somehow the next night I pick her up and we park somewhere to talk. Now we havent seen each other personally since she left for college(seen her when she is home and once with her new bf). Well to keep it short she basically told me she didn't think her new relationship would last and blah blah. Eventually we end up fooling around and I stop after about 5 minutes and tell her she has a BF because I promised I would stop her if anything happened. Well she stops and can't belive she did that and is all upset because she cheated on her bf and blah blah. Well the next 20 minutes the talk of the bad relationpship turns into how much she likes him and is so happy to be with him and she can't belive what she just did. That is the justs of it but I'm so confused now. Everytime I get my hopes up, stupid shit like this happens. And I know your all saying why are you bothering with this nut job but i still love this girl. She can be a awesome and caring person and was to me for quiet awhile but I was a dick and treated her wrong. It's the guilt of all that, that I can't give up on her. That happens everytime. I have apoligized and told her my true feelings. I've been trying to apoligize for 5 months and all that ever usually comes out of it is well you treated me like shit for over a year. And thats true for the most part so I feel i'm obliged to keep trying and not give up. I want nothing more than to be with this girl. I know she still has feelings for me to(obviously) but I dont' know what do to. She still can't make her mind up and she changes everytime i talk to her. HELP?????
View related questions:
drunk, my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Mistify  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Everybody is right when they say you should get over this girl and move on. I know it's not nice to hear, but this girl is not good for you. Even if you treated her wrongly, your relationship didn't work out, and it won't help you keeping on trying. You need some stability in your life, and this girl is offering none.
Do yourself a favor and get to know new people. Don't allow her to use you as a comforter - she's playing with your feelings. She'll come running back every time she has problems in her relationship, and that is not good for you, because you'll ultimately get your hopes up, you'll comfort her, and she'll go back to her new bf. Think of yourself for once. Think how this new bf of hers must feel to know (if he does) that she still sees you. How would that feel if the roles were reversed? You seem like a nice guy, with deep feelings, and some girl out there will be lucky to have you.
Good luck
A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Why are you waiting around for her? she is just out to do your head in and this will continue if you let her get away with it. dont be so gullible. This young lady doesnt know what she wants and wants to keep you at the end of a string just incase her latest thing doesnt work out. She knows that you still have feelings for her or you wouldnt of picked her up. Do you want a life time of knock backs until she finally decides just what she wants, and i dont think it is you???? Get a grip and a life and walk away. I wouldnt put up with this cr*p. Life is much too short, so stop wasting it now.
take care.
xx
...............................
|
