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writes:2 years ago I was with a guy, we were very close but then after a fall out over friends we fizzled out and didn't talk throughout those two years - which was difficult whilst being at the same school in similar classes. We started talking again within the past few months and we hit it off as if nothing had happened. I like him a lot, and I know he likes me however I'm terrified. I've always been so scared of commitment to anything and our relationships getting deeper and deeper. My instinct is to just distance myself whenever I get close to people, and I can feel myself doing that. How do I get around this??Just to make me an even worse person, me and my friend have just been on holiday for a week with her family and during a night out some older guys bought us drinks and one kept repeatedly trying it on with me and after persistently saying no I kissed him back, I don't know why I did it but I did and now I can barely live with myself. My friend told me it didn't matter because it obviously didn't mean anything however I can't think like that. Now I can't look at the boy I'm seeing, I feel guilty even talking to him and I've put off seeing him since I've been back off holiday. I just don't know what to do in this situation so any advice would be appreciated so so much! Thanks in advance.
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reader, dayvide  +, writes (21 February 2015):
 I think you just need to relax and let nature take its course.. This guy might be a nice person why not just roll with him but if he has done something terrible to you in the past and that is making you feel guilty for just hitting it off with him when he came back to you the its really normal to take steps back.. You shouldn't delve into something you are not sure you really wanna do.. Let off all the guilt and take a decision about what you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2015): Your age is 16-17, if you don't want commitment then don't be in a relationship. Enjoy being single, you're obviously not wanting this relationship so don't be in it just to keep people (him) happy.Also, don't ever allow a mans persistence make you do something you don't want to do. If a man is pushing for a kiss, or more, and you don't want to then get up and walk away. Guys like the one you met on holiday are dicks. Just because he might buy you a drink doesn't mean you owe him anything. You shouldn't have to guilty, being in a relationship should be fun and add something to your life not make you feel guilty or trapped. The guy your with is nice, but if your not feeling ready for being committed to someone then don't be. You'll only regret being tied down if you carry on, tell him you like him but would rather be friends right now.
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reader, SweetNeyBerry  +, writes (20 February 2015):
All you need to do is to relex ... Let things take care of themselves, all you need to do is to stay open and honest. And about you kissing the guy,getting out of your comfort zone is a great thing , helps you discover and experience things you've never every thought off ... Try to also talk to a close person to you and ask for some advice and some tips on how to be open and not be afraid of commitment
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