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writes:okkk.... so. me and my guy are close, very close.. we have been dating for 2 years now and everything is perfect! He doesn't smoke though. i can never get him to smoke and every time i mention it he gets mad.. he thinks its totally greasy and i have to pretend the same. i mean me and him smoke a lot of pot together and he has no problem with that! haha!but for some reason he will never smoke. i have been going behind his back and smoking a lot.. i kind of feel the need for it now. what am i supposed to do? i almost feel an addiction now. i cant tell him now because it would wreck everything.. like right before i wrote this i went out for one.. i can't handle keeping anything from him!! what's happening! :( Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 Why can't we judge pot smokers ? Since when approval for use of drugs has become mandatory mandatory ???
Correct me if I am wrong, but as far as I know in your country both sale and possession are against the law, and I don't think Dear Cupid readers are obliged to express solidariety , appreciation or validation for law - breakers !
That's why your dilemma has an ironic twist of pot calling the kettle black. The only difference is that your boyfriend has only one unhealthy addiction ( or weakness or vice or habit, let's not argue about the correct word )
and you have two.
Anyway, to answer your initial question- the smarter idea is that you quit smoking. It's not impossible. There are several methods, from classes, to hypnosis , to self help books etc.etc. The best thing would be you ask your doctor for advice, he can also prescribe you Wellbutrin or stuff like that if nicotine withdrawal is hard to bear and gives you depression or anxiety.
I think you should stop for yourself, regardless of what your boyfriend thinks. After all, you already have your pot habit as an emotional "crutch", you don't need another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Bernard is totally right,
All pot smokers do is bitch and complain
You are more likely to be reckless then someone who is sober
Yes it can help you view the world differently but you don't have to view the world from a 3rd party everyday
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionexcuse me, i never asked this question to hear an answer like that. don't judge my boyfriend whom you don't know. don't judge pot smokers. losing him would be like losing the world. don't tell me it would be losing nothing. I don't want someone who has " better things to do" I want him, and just him. thank youuuuuuu bernard.
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