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anonymous
writes:A girl that I've been crushing over for about a year just rejected me. In my lifetime I've developed crushes over many girls and not one of them ever said yes, I can't fucking take rejection any more, I can't even feel the pain, I'm slowly developing a hatred towards all women and want to die. someone help me.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 May 2009):
 No offense to the other poster, but many people get along better with the opposite sex.
I have a few female friends, but I get along better with guys and have mostly guy friends.
I'm a woman, and I've been rejected. We all have. Furthermore, I have run across a number of men who I sense harbor prejudices towards women, and I'm beginning to wonder if it stems from something similar. It's not my fault, and while it's unfair to hate all women... I feel your pain in spite of all this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): You really need to read the signs. I'm a female and asked a guy out and was rejected, why? cause I knew that he wasn't intrested but chose to ignore the signs. Also are you hitting above your league?
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reader, LizaA  +, writes (30 May 2009):
You are still quite young, it might take a while to find someone who likes you back, but don't give up all hope and don't blame all women for what a few have done to you, not all of us are like that...Do not listen when people tell you to start being mean and girls will like you, you will end up really hurting girls and when you meet a nice girl who likes you back, would you really want to hurt this?I was in the same situation as you, until I reached 18/19, I felt the same towards men, but you need to let go of your past pains from women and just wait for it to happen instead of making it the focus of your life right now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): (my post was not actually my being oversensative as much as it was to subtly make a point).If you didn't get it.. It's not fair to use your past against all women. We are all different and you have to search to find the right one, but you should try to maintain an open mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): com'on, you are only how old? I am sure you will get over it once you find someone. And I am sure you will find that special person. As a woman, I am just glad to see that guys are experiencing this sort of pain too. I don't know if this will make u feel better, but there are many more women feeling this way about man.
Okay let's focus on your problem. A couple of possible issues could exist. 1) you are crushing on the wrong type of girl. Girls in their young years are extremely unpredictable, picky and generally have no idea what they want. Chances are you are crushing on that type. The reality is many of the most attractive women are plain when they were young...so please take a closer at the girls. 2) there is something wrong with you. It could be the way you view the problem. Maybe there isn't a problem but you just think there is a problem. Or there is something wrong with your outter appearance. Again, teen boys aren't the most attractive age. In that case, don't worry. You will only look better and better as you get older, which is great because you love life will only gets better.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (30 May 2009):
 Young man,The advice given to you is for the most part very good. I just want to say is that yes you may be going through a rough patch, but please do not think that your current situation reflects on the female gender as a whole. There are immature morons of all races, creeds, and both genders. Rejection, and the subsequent feelings are normal. Frankly the fact that it depresses you does prove that you have a conscience, and therin lies a good heart that someday will find somebody that is worthy of your love.Now as to the frustration.In approaching someone you like, do you come on real strong, or do you try to conduct yourself as a gentleman?Just a couple of things to consider because gentlemen in this day and age are rare.And women would much rather in the end be with a gentleman. Bad Boys are a dime a dozen and basically wind up alone later in life. Look into your self to see how you can improve your demeanor. And don't be afraid to talk about how you feel. Holding in long harbored resentments towards women will only impair any potential relationships and can bring a whole host of personal problems years down the road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): That's not fair. I've not done anythign wrong, and yet i'm automatically hated by this young male. How aweful i feel..
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reader, heartbroken20 +, writes (30 May 2009):
I'm going through something (sort of) similar. I'm 20; the last two guys I was with cheated on me, completely devastating me. Sometimes I find myself just absolutely hating men. I have zero men in my life that I respect right now, but I remind myself that every individual is different. Think about it -- a lot of guys are jerks, too... It doesn't sound like you are, though. Are you?I never dated through high school. I was extremely introverted (and still am, actually). It's only recently that I've been getting a lot of attention. I'm still young, but I've come to realize that circumstances will simply change as you get older, for no foreseeable reason, really. Scenes change, people around you change, you change.You seem like you're actually trying and that you actually care. One day you will find a woman who deeply appreciates that in you, and you will value her all the more for it. :) Keep your chin up.
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (30 May 2009):
It is more natural to get along with your own sex then the opposite sex.At your age, and the modern times today, which is quite different then when I was your age, being that girls are more educated about boys and are more independent, whereas, in my days, girls were more dependent. They were told to hurry and get married.Now it is quite possible you are choosing the wrong girls. There are body language signals that will clearly indicate whether you are wasting your time and hers in talking to her.Your approach could also be wrong for the type of girl you wish to talk to. You have to be nice, courtious, gentlmanly, humorous, appearance goos and talk clearly.It takes practice. Taking a class at school can help. You can also find body language insights on the web.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): Obviously these girls dont realise what a nice geniune guy you are. Try to become more experienced with talking to girls, mibi your not confident enough and these girls can tell. Take it from me, im a 17 year old girl, there is nothing worse than a boy trying to talk to you that clearly cant. Show them your confident and fun to be with. You will be fightening to girls awayy :)
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): I'm sorry you feel this way, but do you know why you were rejected? There could be a number of reasons. Have you known these crushes long? Talked to them? Shared their interests? They could have had a bf!
Just because a few girls rejected your confession doesn't mean you should just reject the female gender. You're 16-17. Life goes on. Besides, you shouldn't give up your life just because of a rejection.
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reader, Hellium  +, writes (30 May 2009):
Hello there, I am 20 and live in the same situation as you :) I feel sometimes that my pride is the only thing left to fight for! Life is hard, but we HAVE to learn to get over it. I'm in souch a situation in this exactly moment with a girl I met 2 months ago, witch keeps on acting as she loves (she touches me, holds hands with me, puts her freaking cold hand on my chest under my t-shirt and hugs me under the blanket when we look horror films), me but then says that she cannot be with me.. Well, I tried to get over it, but it's even harder :) I am approaching the situation from another point of view: Act more selfish. It sounds disgusting, I know, but turn yourself into a little fucker. I thing woman prefer fuckers to honest and true guys.
This opinion comes from my own experience, so please, do not judge me for not having luck with women.
You are not alone man ;) Just be strong :) You will get surprised that souch hardness may be positive in some situations.. ;) believe me.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2009):
 When I was younger, everything that was happening to me felt like the end of the world but when you grow up, you realize that you can take more than you originally thought.
Life is a journey that will shape a world in your image.
You can either be a victim of life, or in control of life. You can either survive through, or live it through.
The choice is yours, now live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): "This Too, Shall Pass!" Dying is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Instead of blaming the whole female gender, maybe you should look at what you could do differently.
When something isn't working for me I have to take an inventory of what I am doing, and what I can do differently! I try to take full responsibility for my life and how I have lived it!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (30 May 2009):
 Don't exaggerate. Rejection hurts, but that's not every woman's fault. When you take the initiative, you take your chances of being rejected. Try analyzing what happened and why, and you'll learn a lot about how not to get rejected next time. Or how not to care too much about it.
You're saying this now, but in a few months, when that blonde with the big chest passes you by, you'll think otherwise :-).
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