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writes:Me and my husband had a verbal argument yesterday. This morning, he got up early and went to office. I had called him almost 15-20 times from morning, he hasnt picked up the call. Seriously i need to clear my head. He can sulk in this way for even a week. Should I respond the same way or should i still beg on my knees? I have already had enough of this for a year. I am very tired of this. What do I do now? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): Your husband must have watched to much soaps because he obviously likes the drama and tension. Let him do what he wants. Talk when both of you have cooled down.
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reader, Melys  +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Hi there,
Its seems to me like this is a pattern for you and your husband...you have an arguement and he sulks and you chase....right? you need to get out of that pattern...
If you want him to come to you to make it up or not to sulk for so long, you need to back off....completely. Don't call him and beg, just back off and get on with your day as happily as possible...and let him get over his sulk or anger, then when he's ready, he'll come to you.
At first this maybe frustrating and time consuming for you cause I'm guessing you want to sort things out but if you change the pattern you're in and let him come to you everytime, you'll find the sulking time will become shorter. You see, he's not coming to you cause he doesn't need to as you begged to him. You'll find the pattern will change...give it some time and you'll see.
As the saying goes, 'If you want to see a change in your marriage, begin with the change you want to see.' You change your behaviour and you'll see a change in him...
A fantastic book to read is Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray. It's a practical guide for improving communication and getting what you want in your relationships!
Good luck
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