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writes: I'm sick and tired of rejection in every aspect of my life. I went last week to a federal government career fair in my country wich is not USA and one recruiter got very interested in hiring me. I was very happy because I've been unemployed for a long time, have a lot of credit card and student loan debt and I'm in my thirties and still living with my parents. I'm a hispanic US citizen and I'm bilingual (not fully). He even offered me a relocation bonus without even interviewing me. He was very eager and desperate to hire me. He showed my resume to the HR Manager (They were the human resources director and manager, a man and a woman) And she was also 'delighted' I just made a few questions like if they train employees (yes), how was the weather in the state I was suppose to relocate and just obvious questions of an entry level applicant. He showed me a map of the area (in a laptop) and everything. It was a career fair so it was all informal and I was dressed better than any other applicant there. I had some papers they gave me about the organization in my hands and asked him if that was the email address I was supposed to send the softcopy of my resume to (that was the only requirement for me to get the job) but I was pointing to the URL address instead. It was just for two microseconds (a silly mistake) and the recruiter joked about scribbling on my resume like I was disqualified for that mistake. I continued to talk to him and he was very desperate for me to leave so I would send my resume to that address. I spoke with him a little more. Everything was running smooth and I left the place. I was very excited on my way home and even bought some things I needed thinking I could spend the money because I already had the job. I wrote on the email and attached my resume and I wrote what they told me to. It was a simple address I didn't know to whom address it to so I addressed it to the Human Resources Department. I said I have met with this people at the 'x' career fair and also added that they have offered me a job and that I accepted it. I also wrote about the relocation bonus. What was wrong with that? The thing is nothing happened after that. It's like I did something wrong. Why would they play with my feeligns like this?I have no phone number to call the recruiter. I only have the email address and frankly I've been so rejected in everyway for so long I feel very insecure of myself. I don't want to contact nobody because rejection hurts so much I can't take it anymore. I feel so ashamed because I have already told my sister and mother about the "job offer" and even my sister -who's the 'family hero' who just got hired from a well respected multinational company and they are making her travel a lot-was jealous. She is the one who did everything right. Got married young, started working when she was 20, has kids, her stupid company paid for her MBA, etc. And obviously is not a nice contrast what I've not accomplished. My family and ex have neglected me and criticize me a lot for the past year because they think I'm unemployed because I don't want to work (they think I must accept any job on Earth) or that I'm lazy. God knows I've sent resumes to every job available, even for part time tutoring I've been rejected. It's insane the amount of resumes I've sent. Sometimes I receive rejection letters from companies I don't remember applying to.Also I live in a place were my ex drives by every now and then and I hate the fact that he knows I'm still unemployed because he can see my car 24/7. I have NO friends and no money so I can't do much. I go to the ATM every now and then and withdraw cash from my credit card for gas and for the things I ocassionaly need. Sometimes I drive around my town to keep my sanity. I'm sick of inviting 'friends' to places with them saying no.I just can't take rejection no more. The days the months pass by and nothing good happens to me. I'm even beginning to see the signs of aging in my face and it's depressing. It's like a curse where I'm loosing the best years of my life encarcerated and doing nothing. I even get afraid of landing an interview because I feel as if I have nothing good to say about myself. How in hell can I convince anybody I'm the right candidate? I wouldn't hire myself. I have master's and a bachelor's but I'm no expert in nothing. My ex started neglecting me after being unemployed for sometime. That's why I dumped him. Then I kind of wanted to to get back together and he told me that I needed to get a job for that to happen. How in hell can I control that? I have no support from nobody. Sometimes I feel like I should buy an airplane ticket and just leave to my uncle's in Florida just to see what happens. But I have no means of transportation there and my uncle is like my family he assumes one should chose to be succesful and it'll just come to you like magic. He'll start questioning me about everything and expect me to get a job in a reasonable amount of time. I don't know if I can make that happen. Last time I talked to him he told me about how I should pay my credit card balances before they charge me the monthly interests so I wouldn't get indebted LOL. What? Can't that guy see I've been unemployed like all my life? Of course I would like that for me but if life gives you shit you are not supposed to prepare lemonade with it. Anyhow, I hope I haven't bore you with my stuff. If you can help. Thanks in advance.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (18 October 2007):
You need to step up your job search. Send more resumes and go back to your school's placement office. Also take any job you can get until something better comes along. Ask you family and friends to help. Ask everyone you know. It only takes one.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Cojelo suave nena, estas triste y debaria hablar con algien......
You sound very sad, angry, bitter etc. That could make people try to avoid you and that's not what you want. Try to grab a hold of things before you break down. I've just finished a year of looking for work. I know it stinks but you have to reamin positive. Insttead of dwelling on negatives, make things work for you. It's still possible the government job might call you. I understand the feeling about feeling rejected. You get the feeling you're going to get a phone call and then it doesn't come.
I have to go now but if you send me a private message, we can continue later. Hablamos mas tarde si quieres...
eddie
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