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writes:I'm seeing this girl who has a BF. We've talked many times that she's not leaving him and I'm not in any rush and I'm just having fun. We have had sex about 3 different times and every time is amazing. She is an awesome girl and we click like no one before. Just the more I spend time with her the more I get attached to her. We text practically all day unless she's with her man. It just sucks cause I know it's going to end one day and I really don't want it to. What should I do or say to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): so you are ok with her having sex with you and her bf? what about diseases?
she spells trouble. why do you even want someone who cheats, anyway. when she gets bored with you she will move on . she is just playing the field. actually pity the bf, he has no idea his loyal gf is getting it on with you. but if you want to end u like him, just continue with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): I had a similar situation a few months ago. If you want her, tell her that it's obvious she's not happy with her BF if she's cheating with you, she's fooling herself if she thinks otherwise, then tell her how much you like her, care about her, want to be with her etc, but that you need to go and be with someone that see's you as more than Mr. 2nd best. Then stop texting and calling her. It may take a few weeks or months, but once she starts missing you she'll be calling. They always call.
My real advice to you is that this chick sounds like BAD NEWS and you should drop her immediately. Could you ever really trust her knowing how she's doing her current boyfriend? Think about how she must be lying to and hiding things from him, and how she's doing it without so much as flinching. It takes a certain type of person to be capable of something like that and they are generally too needy, self absorbed, and lacking in compassion and empathy to be capable of an emotion as selfless as love.
In my situation btw, I ended up hooking up with her one last time, was completely disgusted with both her and myself afterward, and ended up pulling the ol' disappearing act. I suggest you do the same.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 It sounds like this girl is using u both!
maybe she uses her bf for money and u for sex, either way she is a user.
Its more than likely the thrill of the affair is what makes the sex good, and it inevitable that this will end.
i doubt that she would ever leave her bf, your a bit of fun for her.
the more you continue to see her, the deeper your feelings will grow and unfortunately somebody will get hurt. Guess who?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): Hi,
I was in a similar situation a year ago and I know how much it sucks. It might be fun now, but the more time you spend with her the more time you will want with her. There is no happy ending for you, unless she leaves her BF which you say won't happen. I spent over a year as 'the other woman' and even though there were some great times, in the end it almost destroyed me. When she has a boyfriend she is NOT yours, and the longer you let it go on the worse it will get for you. if she truly likes you she will leave her boyfriend now... but if she doesn't you're just wasting your time on someone instead of finding someone who wants you and noone else.
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reader, iloveyhoo +, writes (22 June 2009):
 well there is not much u can actually do. its down 2 her. but if i were you i wouldnt feel right hanging around with this girl so much as its not fair on her boyfriend. she needs to either dump him and link you or just keep you as a mate. ?
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