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writes:Hi, I've been dating my boyfriend online for like seven months or so, but hes meeting me this summer... sad fact is i have a beautiful face but my body isn't im fat, small boobs (but he likes butts) and im kinda scared to meet him. But I've said i was fat he asked how much i weighed and this is when i just met him so i lied and said a kinda heavy weigh, im not that bad but noticeable. But he's not attractive in the body nor face but i love him anyways, should i worry so much?
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reader, innerfire  +, writes (13 July 2010):
He should love you for you, and whether you like it or not, what you look like is part of 'you'.
Romantic relationships are partially based on physical attraction. People should never judge you at friendship, work, or school based on what you look like. But people do have that right within the context of relationships.
For all you know, he might love what you look like. He might also sort of like you, and then your personality will be enough to convince him you're good for him.
But the smarter approach would have had to just be more honest in the first place. Give him an accurate description of your body, or better yet, send him a picture.
If he's a good guy, he will at least want to remain friends even if he doesn't find you attractive. And again, he might still find you attractive, and if not, there are probably plenty of guys that will.
Also, you're young. There is time for relationships in the future, preferably ones not based on the internet. Also, you have plenty of time to get in better shape!
Men are visual creatures, and both people of both genders need to find their partners attractive. It's best to just accept this fact and work from there.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 He should love you for who you are, which he will :)
He knows you are a nice person and seeing your beautiful face will make him fall in love with you more.
Or you could cut down on fast foods and join a gym to get your weight down? :S which ever one you prefer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Personally, I dont think you should worry that much because if he really loves you than it wont matter. And you said that you have a really pretty face so just play up your best features. Sometimes, if not most times, when you get to know a person the way you did, where you get to know all about there personality and everything without thinking about what they look like, then it doesnt even matter how attractive they are because your a beautiful person mentally, and nothing physical could change that.
I know what its like, trust me. I know a guy who I texted for a solid year without really knowing what he looked like, with the acception of one out of focus picture. Well, when I finally met him, it turned out that he had like an amazing body but a not so amazing face. But that didnt matter at all to me, because I fell in love with the person he really is and i couldnt really care less about his looks.
the point is, just trust that he likes/loves you for who you really are and NOTHING else should matter.
Good luck hun! :)
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reader, LilMissthanglovesssyou* +, writes (13 July 2010):
don't worry so much :)
he should love you for you
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